Phone: 631.332.2213
Email: Suezola@me.com
If you have been faced with your partner's sexual betrayal, dishonesty, lack of transparency, minimizing, denial, blaming, shaming, gas-lighting, deflecting, and other common defenses sex addicts may attempt to use to avoid taking personal accountability and consequences, you may need a full formal disclosure prepared with the help of a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) and an APSATS trained therapist and Polygraph Test to regain your equal standing in your relationship. When traumatizing pieces of information come out a little bit at a time, when you and your partner are alone, this staggered disclosure may damage you and your relationship further. Think carefully instead of impulsively to get the best results.
The following documents were created to help you in the full disclosure process:
IF YOU ARE A CURRENT CLIENT OF MINE, PLEASE ASK ME FOR THE DOCUMENT PASSWORD!Instructions For PDF's Follow This Link
RESOURCE FROM THE HELPING COUPLES HEAL PODCAST - EPISODE 32: THERAPEUTIC SEPARATION
"In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane address therapeutic separation in the context of betrayal and relational trauma, a topic often talked about but not often understood. They discuss everything from what it is and what it is not to why a therapeutic separation can feel threatening or scary and why (if used correctly and with professional support and guidance) it can be a practical intervention for couples trying to heal their relationships after betrayal."
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WORKBOOK FOR THERAPEUTIC SEPARATION
Therapeutic Separation: A Workbook for Couples Facing Addiction by Lindsey Stanley, Lpc, and Stevie Hall, PH D Lpc
Taking a therapeutic separation in your relationship shouldn't feel like you are plunging into the unknown. With proper assistance and support, a therapeutic separation may provide safety, clarity, and healing. That said, choosing this delicate path requires care and guidance. This workbook will walk you through the process of a healthy and productive therapeutic separation from beginning to end. The instruction and exercises in this workbook will help you create a robust therapeutic separation and evaluate what you need moving forward.
In this workbook you will:
1. Evaluate if a separation is right for you.
2. Create a therapeutic separation plan based on your relationship, needs, and boundaries.
3. Learn how to disclose the separation to your children, family, and friends Understand how your history is connected to your present.
4. Complete individual and relationship goals based on your plan.
5. Assess what you need as you move forward after a therapeutic separation.
RESOURCE FROM THE HUMAN INTIMACY PODCAST - EPISODE 2: DISCLOSURES AND COUPLES HEALING POST-DISCOVERY - SPECIAL GUEST DR. STEFANIE CARNES
"In episode #2 of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Skinner interviews Dr. Stefanie Carnes the President of the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals. In this session, these two professionals with almost 60 years of experience discuss the following:
• Whether couples should discuss the details of an affair or other sexual betrayal.
• How to discuss unwanted sexual behaviors with children (what to say and what not to say)
• Insights into Patrick Carnes from Stefanie’s perspective
• If recovery is possible for couples dealing with sexual betrayal Resources mentioned:
• https://sexhelp.com (Find a Counselor)
• The Essentials to Healing from Sexual Betrayal (Online course)
• Treating Sexual Addiction: A 100 Day Course for Recovery (Online course)"
Click HERE to go to EPISODE 2: DISCLOSURES AND COUPLES HEALING POST-DISCOVERY - SPECIAL GUEST DR. STEFANIE CARNES
RESOURCES FROM MICHELLE MAYS -
Susan Zola, LCSW, CCPS, CSAT
T: 631-332-2213
E: suezola@me.com
Licensed In: Arizona, Connecticut, Florida, Maine, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, South Carolina Out-of-State Independent Social Worker Telehealth Provider, Texas, and Virginia
Bachelor of Arts, Psychology – SUNY Binghamton, 1980
Master of Social Work – Adelphi University School of Social Work, 1982.
Private Practice – "Mind Over Matters," 2006.
LCSW License #078530-1
APSATS The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists
CSAT Certified Sex Addiction Therapist
IITAP The International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals
CCPS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist