​Phone: 631.332.2213
Email: Suezola@me.com
Letters From Betrayed Partners
I facilitate a writer's group for betrayed partners. The purpose of reflecting on a variety of topics is to heal yourself by examining your core beliefs.
Post-traumatic growth takes place as we transform the way we choose to understand and see ourselves and others with compassion.
The writers in this group have generously shared their personal stories.
Post-traumatic growth takes place as we transform the way we choose to understand and see ourselves and others with compassion.
The writers in this group have generously shared their personal stories.
If you would like to add your own writings to this page please send them to me at suezola@me.com.
Writing can be cathartic.
NOTE: Each response is written by a betrayed partner that has anonymously shared.
PARTNER TRAUMA LETTERS
EMOTIONAL IMPACT LETTERS WRITTEN AFTER FULL DISCLOSURE
- Impact Letter 1 -.pdf
- Impact Letter 2 -.pdf
- Impact Letter 3 - .pdf
- Impact Letter 4 - .pdf
- Impact Letter 5 .pdf
PROMPT: Reflect on the serenity prayer and what it means to you. How do you use the prayer in your life to help with challenging situations?
Response 1: Response 1 - Serenity Prayer.pdf
Response 2: Response 2 - Serenity Prayer .pdf
Response 3: Response 3 - Serenity Prayer.pdf
Response 4: Response 4 - Serenity Prayer.pdf
PROMPT: Addiction.
Response 1: Response 1 - Addiction.pdf
Response 2: Response 2 - Addiction.pdf
Response 3: Response 3 - Addiction.pdf
PROMPT: Guilt and Shame.
Response 1: Response 1 - Guilt.pdf
PROMPT: Reflect on the following Victor Frankl Quote:
Response 1: Response 1 - Frankl Quote.pdf
PROMPT: Love.
Response 1: Response 1 - Love.pdf
Response 2: Response 2 - Love.pdf
Response 3: Response 3 - Love.pdf
PROMPT: Fidelity and Monogamy.
Response 1: Response 1 - Fidelity and Monogamy.pdf
PROMPT: Sexuality.
Response 1: Response 1 - Sexuality .pdf
PROMPT: What is my Relationship to Aging?
Response 1: Response 1 - What Is My Relationship To Aging_.pdf
PROMPT: Financial Security.
Response 1: Response 1 - Financial Security.pdf
PROMPT: Reflect on the following Mary Mannin Morrisey Quote:
Response 1: Response 1 - Mary Manin Morrissey Quote.pdf
PROMPT: Reflect on Fathers.
Response 1: Response 1 - Dad.pdf
PROMPT: Reflect on Mothers.
Response 1: Response 1 - Mom .pdf
PROMPT: Death.
Response 1: Death - Response 1.pdf
Response 2: Response 2 - Death.pdf
Response 3: Death - Response 3.pdf
PROMPT: Attachment Styles.
PROMPT:" The Four Agreements"
The Four Agreements are:
- Be Impeccable With Your Word.
- Don't Take Anything Personally.
- Don't Make Assumptions.
- Always Do Your Best.
PROMPT: Reflect on the following Don Miguel Ruiz Quote:
Response 1: Response 1 - Miguel Ruiz Quote.pdf
PROMPT: Reflect on the ending of our writing group:
Response 1: Response 1 - Last Writing Group Session.pdf
Response 2: Response 2 - Last Writing Group Session.pdf
PROMPT: I'm going to miss you forever (click here to go to instagram reel from Josie Balka)
Response 1: Response 1 - What do I miss_ .pdf
PROMPT: MATTERING - "Mattering is a basic human need and a feeling of being valued, significant, and important in our lives, relationships, and work. It's the idea that we make a difference, are appreciated, and would be missed if we weren't around."
Response 1: Response 1_ Mattering.pdf
Response 2: Response 2 - Mattering.pdf
Response 3: Response 3 - Mattering.pdf
Response 4: Response 4 - Mattering - _07_05_2023_ by Emma Scotson.pdf
Response 5: Response 5 - Mattering .pdf
POETRY FROM BETRAYED PARTNERS:
1. "Loss" - Loss.pdf
2. "Division" - Poem - Division.pdf
3. "The Travel Season" - Poem - The Travel Season.pdf
4. "Before You Cheat on Her Know This" - Poem - Kirsten J. Robinson
RESPONSES FROM THOSE SUFFERING WITH SEX ADDICTION:
1. Response to - Can There Be Healthy Sex After Betrayal? - _Can There Be Healthy Sex After Betrayal_ - A Response from a SA in Recovery.pdf
2. Why is Porn on my list of bottom line behaviors? - Why is porn on my list of bottom line behaviors - a response from a SA in recovery copy.pdf
Contact
Susan Zola, LCSW, CCPS, CSAT
T: 631-332-2213
E: suezola@me.com
Licensed In: Arizona, Connecticut, Florida, Maine, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, South Carolina Out-of-State Independent Social Worker Telehealth Provider, Texas, and Virginia
Credentials
Bachelor of Arts, Psychology – SUNY Binghamton, 1980
Master of Social Work – Adelphi University School of Social Work, 1982.
Private Practice – "Mind Over Matters," 2006.
LCSW License #078530-1
APSATS The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists
CSAT Certified Sex Addiction Therapist
IITAP The International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals
CCPS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist
