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12 Steps Programs

    Sexaholics Anonymous

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    ““Sexaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober. There are no dues or fees for SA membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions. SA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and help others to achieve sexual sobriety.* Sexaholics Anonymous is a recovery program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous and received permission from AA to use its Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in 1979.”- Sexaholics Anonymous Website

    Attending SA meetings starts us on a new way of life. But while the SA fellowship supports our recovery, the actual work of recovery is described in the Twelve Steps. Meetings are forums for learning how to integrate the steps into our lives. Working the Twelve Steps leads to a spiritual transformation that results in sustainable relief from our addiction.

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    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over addictive sexual behavior - that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

    These steps are the heart of our program. They contain a depth that we could hardly have guessed when we started. Over time, we establish a relationship with a Power greater than ourselves, each of us coming to an understanding of a Higher Power that is personal for us.

    The SA program offers a spiritual solution to our addiction, without requiring adherence to any specific set of beliefs or practices.

    But the steps are more than a series of exercises. They provide basic principles for living. Most of us find opportunities on a daily basis to apply one or more of the steps to some challenge in our life. Over time, the spiritual principles in the steps become integrated into our thoughts, feelings, and behavior. We find that we are not only working the steps — we are living them.

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    S-Anon

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    "S-Anon Family Groups are for those who are hurting in response to the sexual addiction of someone close to them.  It does not matter whether that person is a family member, a partner, spouse, child, or someone outside the family like a friend, teacher, or boss.  Sexaholism can affect anyone." - S-Anon Website

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    The Twelve Steps of S-Anon are the foundation of our personal growth and recovery. The principles of the Twelve Steps are universal, applicable to all of us, regardless of our various beliefs. When practiced as a way of life, these spiritual principles help us to meet and rise above all difficulties in our lives – not just those associated with living with or having lived with sexaholism. Here are the Twelve Steps we follow which are suggested for our recovery:


    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over sexaholism – that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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    Alcoholics Anonymous

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    “Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of people who come together to solve their drinking problem. It doesn’t cost anything to attend A.A. meetings. There are no age or education requirements to participate. Membership is open to anyone who wants to do something about their drinking problem.Members use the Twelve Steps to maintain sobriety. Groups use the Twelve Traditions to stay unified.” - Alcoholics Anonymous Website

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    AA’s 12-Step approach follows a set of guidelines designed as “steps” toward recovery, and members can revisit these steps at any time. The 12 Steps are:

    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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    Al-Anon

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    “Our personal situations may be different, but we share as equals because of what we have in common: our lives have been affected by another person’s drinking. Al-Anon is a mutual support group. We can find understanding and support when we share our common experience with each other. Some of us are here because a spouse or partner has struggled with alcoholism. For others, the problem drinker is a parent, child, or grandchild. Sometimes a brother, a sister, or some other friend or relative brings us to Al-Anon. Many of us have had more than one alcoholic family member or friend.” - Al-Anon Website

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    These Twelve Steps, adapted nearly word-for-word from the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, have been a tool for spiritual growth for millions of Al Anon/Alateen members. At meetings, Al Anon/Alateen members share with each other the personal lessons they have learned from practicing from these Steps.

    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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    Narcotics Anonymous

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    "NA is a nonprofit fellowship or society of men and women for whom drugs had become a major problem. We are recovering addicts who meet regularly to help each other stay clean. This is a program of complete abstinence from all drugs. There is only one requirement for membership, the desire to stop using. We suggest that you keep an open mind and give yourself a break. Our program is a set of principles written so simply that we can follow them in our daily lives. The most important thing about them is that they work."- Narcotics Anonymous Website

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    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over our addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    We're entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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    Nar-Anon

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    "The Nar-Anon Family Groups is primarily for those who know or have known a feeling of desperation concerning the addiction problem of someone very near to you. We have traveled that unhappy road too, and found the answer with serenity and peace of mind. Narateen is part of the Nar-Anon program for teens affected by someone else’s addiction. Our program, which is not a religious one but a spiritual way of life, is based on the Twelve Steps of Nar-Anon. We've found that the working of these steps will bring the solution to practically any problem. We urge you to take this program and its twelve steps seriously. It has been as helpful to us as the Narcotics Anonymous program is to the addict. We only ask for the wisdom and courage to see ourselves as we really are, to do something about ourselves with the help of a Higher Power as we understand this, and for the grace to release our addicts with love and cease trying to change them." - Nar- Anon Website

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    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over the Addict -- that our lives have become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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    Helpful Slogans

    Helpful Slogans

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    HELPFUL SLOGANS AND MASTER LIST OF ANONYMOUS GROUPS MEETING INFORMATION


    Here are some common slogans used in recovery circles. One way to use them is to write your favorite slogans on separate pieces of paper. Put them all in a small box and take one out every morning. Whatever the slogan is that you pick up, try to practice that slogan to the best of your ability for that day. After a while, the slogans will become a part of your every-day thoughts.

    • First Things First
    • Don't Act out No Matter What
    • This too Shall Pass
    • Live and Let Live
    • Let go and let God
    • Time takes time
    • One day at a time
    • Principles before personalities


    • Is your program powered by Will Power or Higher Power?
    • Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
    • Misery is optional
    • God doesn't make junk
    • Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less
    • Live life on life's terms
    • You can't think your way into a new way of living...you have to live your way into a new way of thinking
    • The key to freedom is in the Steps


    • GOD = Good Orderly Direction
    • HALT = don't get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
    • Your worth should never depend on another persons opinion
    • HOW it works = Honesty, Open mindedness, and Willingness
    • SLIP = Sobriety Lost Its Priority
    • Don't pick up, ask for help, call your sponsor, and go to meetings
    • It's a simple program for complicated people
    • The newcomer is the most important person in any meeting


    • Keep coming back, it works if you work it
    • Learn to listen and listen to learn
    • Many meetings, many chances; few meetings, few chances; no meetings, no chances
    • Meeting makers make it
    • People who don't go to meetings don't hear about what happens to people who don't go to meetings
    • To keep what you have, you have to give it away
    • How does it work? It works just fine
    • If you don't want to slip, stay away from slippery places


    • If you do what you always did, you'll get what you always got
    • If you sit in the barber's chair long enough, you'll eventually get a haircut
    • Most things can be preserved in alcohol; dignity, however, is not one of them
    • Progress, not perfection
    • Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die
    • think......think.......think
    • Keep it simple
    • Stick with the winners


    • H O P E = Happy Our Program Exists
    • Recovery is a journey ...not a destination
    • To thine own self be true
    • Turn it over
    • Nothing is so bad, a drink won't make it worse
    • Willingness is the key
    • Take what you need and leave the rest
    • If you expect respect, be the first to show some


    • Keep the plug in the jug
    • Do it sober
    • Although we are not responsible for our disease we are responsible for our recovery
    • Hugs not Drugs
    • Just for Today
    • Recovery doesn't happen overnight
    • Pass it on
    • If you want to stay clean, don't use


    • Don't quit before the miracle happens
    • Nobody ever found recovery as a result of an intellectual awakening
    • Use the 24-hour plan
    • When all else fails, follow directions
    • Change is a process, not an event
    • Call your sponsor before, not after, you take the first drink
    • Give time time
    • I was sick and tired of being sick and tired
    • You only get out of it what you put into it
    • It's the first drink that gets you drunk
    • An addict alone is in bad company
    • You can only keep what you have by giving it away
    • Take what you can use and leave the rest
    • Recovery begins with the First Step
    • Help is only a phone call away
    • Nothing changes if nothing changes
    • It is possible to change without improving - it is impossible to improve without change
    • Experience, strength and hope not opinions, bulls**t and dope
    • One drink is too many and a thousand not enough
    • An addict cannot be grateful and hateful at the same time
    • Easy does it
    • Easy does it but do it
    • Stick with the winners - Win with the stickers
    • Serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace amid the storm
    • Feelings are not facts
    • Turn it over, don't turn it off
    • Beneath every skirt is a slip
    • Seven days without a meeting makes one weak
    • Growing old is mandatory - Growing up is optional
    • Slogans are wisdom written in shorthand

    MASTER LIST OF ANONYMOUS MEETINGS INFORMATION

    1. Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) 
    “Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of people who come together to solve their drinking problem. It doesn’t cost anything to attend A.A. meetings. There are no age or education requirements to participate. Membership is open to anyone who wants to do something about their drinking problem.Members use the Twelve Steps to maintain sobriety. Groups use the Twelve Traditions to stay unified.” - Alcoholics Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    2. Sexaholics Anonymous (S.A.)
    ““Sexaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober. There are no dues or fees for SA membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions. SA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and help others to achieve sexual sobriety.* Sexaholics Anonymous is a recovery program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous and received permission from AA to use its Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in 1979.”- Sexaholics Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    3. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.)
    “Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous. The only qualification for S.L.A.A. membership is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction.”- Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    4. Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) 
    “We have all learned to survive life, but in CoDA we are learning to live life. Through applying the Twelve Steps and principles found in CoDA to our daily life and relationships ­both present and past – we can experience a new freedom from our self-defeating lifestyles. It is an individual growth process. Each of us is growing at our own pace and will continue to do so as we remain open to God’s will for us on a daily basis. Our sharing is our way of identification and helps us to free the emotional bonds of our past and the compulsive control of our present.” - Co-Dependents Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    5. Love Addicts Anonymous (L.A.A.)
    “Love addiction comes in many forms. Some love addicts carry a torch for unavailable people. Some love addicts obsess when they fall in love. Some love addicts get addicted to the euphoric effects of romance. Others cannot let go of a toxic relationship even if they are unhappy, depressed, lonely, neglected or in danger. Some love addicts are codependent and others are narcissistic. Some love addicts use sex to manage feelings; others are sexually ambivalent. What we all have in common is that we are powerless over our distorted thoughts, feelings and behavior when it comes to love, fantasies and relationships. Still, there is hope. Through self-honesty, open-mindedness, willingness, and the 12-steps of LAA, we can recover. We can do together what we cannot do alone.We can grow and change in the sunlight of the spirit. Welcome to LAA. Welcome home!” - Love Addicts Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION 

    6. Sex Addicts Anonymous (S.A.A.)
    “In Sex Addicts Anonymous we are a fellowship of men and women who share our experience, strength, and hope with each other for the purpose of finding freedom from addictive sexual behavior and helping others recover from sex addiction. Local meetings offer an accepting, non-threatening environment where we can share our common struggles and learn how to apply the principles of the Twelve Steps to our everyday lives.” - Sex Addicts Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    7. Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (S.C.A.)
    “Sexual Compulsives Anonymous is a twelve-step fellowship inclusive of all sexual orientations, open to anyone with a desire to recover from sexual compulsion. We are not group therapy, but a spiritual program that provides a safe environment for working on problems of sexual addiction and sexual sobriety. Our program is one of suggestions – not of rules. Each member is invited to “take what you like and leave the rest.” This means that you are free to use any tools and suggestions from SCA that work best for you.” - Sexual Compulsives Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    8. Sexual Recovery Anonymous (S.R.A.)
    “Our program offers a path of recovery from sex addiction. Like all addictions, sex addiction interferes with the life process, and can even be life-threatening. SRA offers a way to stop compulsive sexual behavior through practicing the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. The list of statements in the section Do I Belong in SRA? will help you decide if you are addicted. This Website is also for the family members and friends of the sex addict who want to better understand sex addiction and where help can be obtained.” - Sexual Recovery Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    9. Narcotics Anonymous (N.A.)
    "NA is a nonprofit fellowship or society of men and women for whom drugs had become a major problem. We are recovering addicts who meet regularly to help each other stay clean. This is a program of complete abstinence from all drugs. There is only one requirement for membership, the desire to stop using. We suggest that you keep an open mind and give yourself a break. Our program is a set of principles written so simply that we can follow them in our daily lives. The most important thing about them is that they work."- Narcotics Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    10. Recovering Couples Anonymous (R.C.A.)
    “Ours is a fellowship of recovering couples. We suffer from many addictions and dysfunctions, and we share our experience, strength, and hope with each other that we may solve our common problems and help other recovering couples restore their relationships. The only requirement for membership is the desire to remain committed to each other and to develop new intimacy.” Although there is no organizational affiliation between Alcoholics Anonymous and our fellowship, we are based on the principles of AA. Our primary purpose is to stay committed in loving and intimate relationships and to help other couples achieve freedom from dysfunctional relationships. - Recovering Couples Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    11. Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families (A.C.O.A)
    “Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA)/Dysfunctional Families is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition program of people who grew up in dysfunctional homes. We meet to share our experience of growing up in an environment where abuse, neglect and trauma infected us. This affects us today and influences how we deal with all aspects of our lives. ACA provides a safe, nonjudgmental environment that allows us to grieve our childhoods and conduct an honest inventory of ourselves and our family—so we may (i) identify and heal core trauma, (ii) experience freedom from shame and abandonment, and (iii) become our own loving parents.”- Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    12. Al-Anon Family Groups 
    “Our personal situations may be different, but we share as equals because of what we have in common: our lives have been affected by another person’s drinking. Al-Anon is a mutual support group. We can find understanding and support when we share our common experience with each other. Some of us are here because a spouse or partner has struggled with alcoholism. For others, the problem drinker is a parent, child, or grandchild. Sometimes a brother, a sister, or some other friend or relative brings us to Al-Anon. Many of us have had more than one alcoholic family member or friend.” - Al-Anon Family Groups Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    13. Nar-Anon Family Groups 
    "The Nar-Anon Family Groups is primarily for those who know or have known a feeling of desperation concerning the addiction problem of someone very near to you. We have traveled that unhappy road too, and found the answer with serenity and peace of mind. Narateen is part of the Nar-Anon program for teens affected by someone else’s addiction. Our program, which is not a religious one but a spiritual way of life, is based on the Twelve Steps of Nar-Anon. We've found that the working of these steps will bring the solution to practically any problem. We urge you to take this program and its twelve steps seriously. It has been as helpful to us as the Narcotics Anonymous program is to the addict. We only ask for the wisdom and courage to see ourselves as we really are, to do something about ourselves with the help of a Higher Power as we understand this, and for the grace to release our addicts with love and cease trying to change them."- Nar- Anon Family Groups Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION

    14. Families Anonymous (F.A.)
    “FA is a 12 step fellowship for the family and friends of those individuals with drug, alcohol or related behavioral issues. We are here to help!” - Families Anonymous Website CLICK HERE FOR MEETINGS INFORMATION 





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