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12 Steps Programs

    Sexaholics Anonymous

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    SA (Sexaholics Anonymous)

    ““Sexaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober. There are no dues or fees for SA membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions. SA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and help others to achieve sexual sobriety.* Sexaholics Anonymous is a recovery program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous and received permission from AA to use its Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in 1979.”- Sexaholics Anonymous Website

    "Attending SA meetings starts us on a new way of life. But while the SA fellowship supports our recovery, the actual work of recovery is described in the Twelve Steps. Meetings are forums for learning how to integrate the steps into our lives. Working the Twelve Steps leads to a spiritual transformation that results in sustainable relief from our addiction." - Sexaholics Anonymous Website

    Website: https://www.sa.org/

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    The 12 Steps of SA

    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over addictive sexual behavior - that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

    These steps are the heart of our program. They contain a depth that we could hardly have guessed when we started. Over time, we establish a relationship with a Power greater than ourselves, each of us coming to an understanding of a Higher Power that is personal for us.

    The SA program offers a spiritual solution to our addiction, without requiring adherence to any specific set of beliefs or practices.

    But the steps are more than a series of exercises. They provide basic principles for living. Most of us find opportunities on a daily basis to apply one or more of the steps to some challenge in our life. Over time, the spiritual principles in the steps become integrated into our thoughts, feelings, and behavior. We find that we are not only working the steps — we are living them.




    RESOURCES FROM SA

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    SLAA

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    SLAA ( Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous)

    “Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, or S.L.A.A., is a program for anyone who suffers from an addictive compulsion to engage in or avoid sex, love, or emotional attachment. We use the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous to recover from these compulsions. We are united in a common focus: dealing with our addictive sexual and emotional behavior. We find a common denominator in our obsessive/compulsive patterns, which transcends any personal differences of sexual orientation or gender identity. ” - SLAA Website

    Website: https://slaafws.org

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    The 12 Steps of SLAA


    STEP 1

    We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2

    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

    STEP 4

    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6

    We're entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings..

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10

    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with a Power greater than ourselves, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12

    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to sex and love addicts and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives.


    *©1985 The Augustine Fellowship, S.L.A.A., Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. 

    The Twelve Steps are reprinted and adapted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint and adapt the Twelve Steps does not mean that A.A. is affiliated with this program. A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only. Use of the Twelve Steps in connection with programs and activities, which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, does not imply otherwise.


    Resources from SLAA

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    ISA

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    ISA (Infidelity Survivors Anonymous)

    “Infidelity Survivors Anonymous is a support group for individuals who have experienced infidelity-induced trauma caused by any form of sexual betrayal in their primary relationship(s). In ISA, we learn helpful and practical tools to cope with the trauma and the other harmful effects of infidelity or sexual betrayal. In addition to these useful tools, we have an opportunity to work the ISA 12 Steps, as well as experience the benefits of the ISA Promises.” - ISA Website

    Website: https://www.isurvivors.org/

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    The 12 Steps of ISA
    Step One 
    We acknowledged our powerlessness over other people's sexual behavior – that our lives had become unmanageable.

    Step Two
    Came to believe that a loving Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    Step Three
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of a Higher Power of our own understanding.

    Step Four 
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    Step Five 
    Admitted to our Higher Power, ourselves and to others the exact nature of our strengths and weaknesses.

    Step Six 
    Were entirely ready to have our Higher Power remove all our unhealthy behaviors and beliefs.

    Step Seven 
    Humbly asked our Higher Power to remove our shortcomings.

    Step Eight
    Made a list of the people we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    Step Nine 
    Made direct amends to such people, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    Step Ten 
    Continued to take personal inventory. When we were wrong, we promptly admitted it.

    Step Eleven
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with our Higher Power, praying only for knowledge of our Higher Power’s will for us and the power to carry that out.

    Step Twelve
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other infidelity survivors, and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives. 


    The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous have been reprinted and adapted with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. (“AAWS”). Permission to reprint and adapt the Twelve Steps does not mean that Alcoholics Anonymous is affiliated with this program. A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only - use of A.A.’s Steps or an adapted version in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, or use in any other non-A.A. context, does not imply otherwise.

    RESOURCES FROM ISA

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    S-Anon

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    S-Anon

    "S-Anon Family Groups are for those who are hurting in response to the sexual addiction of someone close to them.  It does not matter whether that person is a family member, a partner, spouse, child, or someone outside the family like a friend, teacher, or boss.  Sexaholism can affect anyone." - S-Anon Website

    Website: https://sanon.org/

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    The 12 Steps of S-Anon

    The Twelve Steps of S-Anon are the foundation of our personal growth and recovery. The principles of the Twelve Steps are universal, applicable to all of us, regardless of our various beliefs. When practiced as a way of life, these spiritual principles help us to meet and rise above all difficulties in our lives – not just those associated with living with or having lived with sexaholism. Here are the Twelve Steps we follow which are suggested for our recovery:


    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over sexaholism – that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

    RESOURCES FROM S-ANON

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    RCA

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    “Ours is a fellowship of recovering couples. We suffer from many addictions and dysfunctions, and we share our experience, strength, and hope with each other that we may solve our common problems and help other recovering couples restore their relationships. The only requirement for membership is the desire to remain committed to each other and to develop new intimacy.” - RCA Website

    Website: https://recovering-couples.org/

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    The 12 Steps of RCA

    STEP 1 
    We admitted we were powerless over our relationship — that our lives together had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to commitment and intimacy.

    STEP 3

    We made a decision to turn our wills and our life together over to the care of God as we understood God.

    STEP 4
    We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of our relationship together as a couple.

    STEP 5

    We admitted to God, to each other, and to another couple the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6 
    We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character, communication, and caring.

    STEP 7
    We humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9 
    We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10

    We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it to our partner and to others we had harmed.

    STEP 11
    We sought through our common prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to other couples, and to practice these principles in all aspects of our lives, our relationship, and our families.

    The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous have been adapted with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to adapt the Twelve Steps does not mean that Alcoholics Anonymous is affiliated with this program. A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only — use of A.A.’s Steps or an adapted version in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, or use in any other non-A.A. context, does not imply otherwise. 

    © 1991, 2011 by the World Service Organization for Recovering Couples Anonymous, Inc. All rights reserved.


    How RCA Works—Part I 

    Adapted From The book, Alcoholics Anonymous © 1939, 1955, A.A. World Services, Inc. 

    Rarely have we seen a couple fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands mutual and rigorous honesty.

    There are those, too, who cannot or will not make a commitment to their partner. There are those who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest. Our stories disclose in a general way what we used to be like, what happened, and what we are like now. If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it, then you are ready to take certain steps. At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not.

    With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the start. Some of us have tried to hold on to our old ideas, and the result was not until we let go absolutely. Remember that we deal with addictions—cunning, baffling, powerful. We also deal with all those memories of past hurts, misbehavior, and vows violated. Without help our anger, hurt, and mistrust are too great for us. But there is one who has all power; that one is God. May you find God now. Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked God’s protection and care with complete abandon. Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a program of recovery.

     © 1991, 2011 by the World Service Organization for Recovering Couples Anonymous, Inc. All rights reserved.



    How RCA Works—Part II 

    Adapted from the book, Alcoholics Anonymous © 1939, 1955, A.A. World Services, Inc. 

    Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! We can’t go through with it. Our love is lost, our vows forever violated, our communication destroyed, our families broken beyond repair.” Do not be discouraged. No couple among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints, our love is not perfect, our energy not unbounded, nor our relationships ideal. There is no such thing as the ultimately caring and nurturing partner or perfect intimacy. The point is that we are willing to grow together along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection. In our spirituality we claim the goal of greater caring, communication, and intimacy. Our understanding of our addictions, dysfunctions, and our personal histories before and after recovery make clear three pertinent ideas:

    1. That our relationship had become unmanageable. That despite our best efforts we were headed for separation and/or divorce.

    2. That probably no human power could have restored us to commitment and intimacy.

    3. That God could and would if God were sought.

    © 1991, 2011 by the World Service Organization for Recovering Couples Anonymous, Inc. All rights reserved.



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    Smart Recovery

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    Smart Recovery

    “SMART Recovery is a fresh approach to addiction recovery. SMART stands for Self-Management and Recovery Training. This is more than an acronym: it is a transformative method of moving from addictive substances and negative behaviors to a life of positive self-regard and willingness to change.

    Far too many people feel powerless over their lives and carry a sense of futility, a dread of staying trapped within an addiction pattern and locked into their circumstances. SMART helps them learn the skills they need to overcome their addictions and transform their lives.

    SMART was created for people seeking a self-empowering way to overcome addictive problems. What has emerged is an accessible method of recovery, one grounded in science and proven by more than a quarter-century of experience teaching practical tools that encourage lasting change.” - Smart Recovery Website 

    Website: https://www.smartrecovery.org/

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    Programs Offered by Smart Recovery
    1. Programs for Individuals 
    2. Programs for Family & Friends 
    3. Programs for Veterans & First Responders 
    4. Programs for Young Adults 
    5. Programs for LGBTQ+ 
    Resources Offered by Smart Recovery 

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    Alcoholics Anonymous

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    AA (Alcoholics Anonymous)

    “Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of people who come together to solve their drinking problem. It doesn’t cost anything to attend A.A. meetings. There are no age or education requirements to participate. Membership is open to anyone who wants to do something about their drinking problem.Members use the Twelve Steps to maintain sobriety. Groups use the Twelve Traditions to stay unified.” - Alcoholics Anonymous Website

    Website: https://www.aa.org/

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    The 12 Steps of AA

    AA’s 12-Step approach follows a set of guidelines designed as “steps” toward recovery, and members can revisit these steps at any time. The 12 Steps are:

    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.


    Resources from AA

    https://www.aa.org/resources/literature
    https://www.aa.org/resources/media
    https://www.aa.org/meeting-guide-app
    https://www.aa.org/audio-public-service-announcement-downloads
    https://www.aa.org/downloadable-videos
    https://www.aa.org/newsletters

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    Al-Anon

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    Al-Anon

    “Our personal situations may be different, but we share as equals because of what we have in common: our lives have been affected by another person’s drinking. Al-Anon is a mutual support group. We can find understanding and support when we share our common experience with each other. Some of us are here because a spouse or partner has struggled with alcoholism. For others, the problem drinker is a parent, child, or grandchild. Sometimes a brother, a sister, or some other friend or relative brings us to Al-Anon. Many of us have had more than one alcoholic family member or friend.” - Al-Anon Website

    Website: https://al-anon.org/

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    The 12 Steps of Al-Anon

    These Twelve Steps, adapted nearly word-for-word from the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, have been a tool for spiritual growth for millions of Al Anon/Alateen members. At meetings, Al Anon/Alateen members share with each other the personal lessons they have learned from practicing from these Steps.

    STEP 1
    We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.

    STEP 2
    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    STEP 3
    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

    STEP 4
    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    STEP 5
    Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    STEP 6
    Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    STEP 7
    Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

    STEP 8
    Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    STEP 9
    Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    STEP 10
    Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    STEP 11
    Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    STEP 12
    Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.


    RESOURCES FROM AI-ANON

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    Support Groups

    Support Groups

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    1. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous. The only qualification for S.L.A.A. membership is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction.
    2. Sex Addicts Anonymous - A fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other so they may overcome their sexual addiction and help others recover from sexual addiction or dependency.
    3. Sexual Compulsives Anonymous - Sexual Compulsives Anonymous is a twelve-step fellowship inclusive of all sexual orientations, open to anyone with a desire to recover from sexual compulsion. We are not group therapy, but a spiritual program that provides a safe environment for working on problems of sexual addiction and sexual sobriety.
    4. Porn Addicts Anonymous - A 12-step fellowship for those seeking recovery from an addiction to pornography.
    5. Recovery Dharma - Recovery Dharma is a peer-led movement and community that is unified by our trust in the potential of each of us to recover and find freedom from the suffering of addiction. We believe that the traditional Buddhist teachings, often referred to as the Dharma, offer a powerful approach to healing from addiction and living a life of true freedom.We believe that recovery means empowerment, and we support each other as partners walking the path together. We believe that recovery is rooted in finding our own inner wisdom and individual journeys.
    6. Refuge Recovery - Refuge Recovery is a Buddhist-oriented, non-theistic recovery program that does not ask anyone to believe anything, only to trust the process and do the hard work of recovery. In fact, no previous experience or knowledge of Buddhism is required. Recovery is possible, and this program provides a systematic approach to treating and recovering from all forms of addiction. When sincerely practiced, the program can ensure a full recovery from addiction and a life-long sense of well-being and happiness.
    7. SMART Recovery - SMART Recovery is a fresh approach to addiction recovery. SMART stands for Self-Management and Recovery Training. This is more than an acronym: it is a transformative method of moving from addictive substances and negative behaviors to a life of positive self-regard and willingness to change.
    8. BAN - Beyond Affairs Network - Beyond Affairs Network (BAN) is a grass roots organization made up of local support groups for people who are dealing with the devastating impact of a spouse's affair.
    9. ISA - Infidelity Survivors Anonymous - Infidelity Survivors Anonymous is a support group for individuals who have experienced infidelity-induced trauma caused by any form of sexual betrayal in their primary relationship(s). In ISA, we learn helpful and practical tools to cope with the trauma and the other harmful effects of infidelity or sexual betrayal. In addition to these useful tools, we have an opportunity to work the ISA 12 Steps, as well as experience the benefits of the ISA Promises. 
    10. Alcoholics Anonymous- Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of people who come together to solve their drinking problem.  It doesn’t cost anything to attend A.A. meetings. There are no age or education requirements to participate. Membership is open to anyone who wants to do something about their drinking problem. A.A.’s primary purpose is to help alcoholics to achieve sobriety.
    11. Al-AnonAl‑Anon is a mutual support program for people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. By sharing common experiences and applying the Al-Anon principles, families and friends of alcoholics can bring positive changes to their individual situations, whether or not the alcoholic admits the existence of a drinking problem or seeks help.
    12. Altaeen - Alateen, a part of the Al-Anon Family Groups, is a fellowship of young people (mostly teenagers) whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking whether they are in your life drinking or not. By attending Alateen, teenagers meet other teenagers with similar situations. Alateen is not a religious program and there are no fees or dues to belong to it.
    13. Adult Children of Alcoholics - "Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA)/Dysfunctional Families is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition program of people who grew up in dysfunctional homes. We meet to share our experience of growing up in an environment where abuse, neglect and trauma infected us. This affects us today and influences how we deal with all aspects of our lives. ACA provides a safe, nonjudgmental environment that allows us to grieve our childhoods and conduct an honest inventory of ourselves and our family—so we may (i) identify and heal core trauma, (ii) experience freedom from shame and abandonment, and (iii) become our own loving parents."
    14. Recovery International - "Recovery International offers a cognitive behavioral training program developed by the late neuropsychiatrist Dr. Abraham Low. For more than 80 years, this method has helped people learn to identify and manage negative thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and behaviors that can lead to emotional distress and related physical symptoms."
    15. Codependents Anonymous - "Somewhere along the line, we learned to doubt our perception, discount our feelings, and overlook our needs. We looked to others to tell us what to think, feel, and behave. Other people supplied us with information about who we were and should be. It became more important to be compliant or avoidant rather than to be authentic, and we adopted rigid beliefs about what “should be.” We believed that if we could just “get it right,” things would be okay. When we “got it wrong,” our sense of security and self-worth evaporated. We find by working the Steps and Traditions, we find the strength to be that which God intended, Precious & Free, with healthy, loving relationships. We find the Promises coming true, one day at a time."
    16. Cosex and Love Addicts Anonymous - "COSLAA is a 12 step support group for the recovery of family, friends, and significant others whose lives have been affected by their relationship with someone addicted to sex and love. COSLAA, also known as CO-Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous reaches out to the suffering individual , 18 years or older, regardless of sexual orientation, gender, or relationship status. COSLAA meetings have a united purpose of mutual aid to those affected by another’s sex and love addiction, but who are not sex addicts themselves."
    17. Dual Recovery Anonymous - "Dual Recovery Anonymous™ is an independent, nonprofessional, Twelve Step, self-help membership organization for people with a dual diagnosis. Our goal is to help men and women who experience a dual illness. We are chemically dependent and we are also affected by an emotional or psychiatric illness. Both illnesses affect us in all areas of our lives; physically, psychologically, socially, and spiritually."
    18. Emotions Anonymous - "The EA membership is composed of people who come together in weekly meetings for the purpose of working toward recovery from emotional difficulties. EA members are from many walks of life and are of diverse ages, economic statuses, social and educational backgrounds. The only requirement for membership is a desire to become well emotionally."
    19. Male Survivor - "MaleSurvivor is a 501(c)(3), non-profit, public benefit organization committed to preventing, healing, and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men through support, treatment, research, education, advocacy, and activism."
    20. Sex Addicts Anonymous - "As a fellowship of recovering addicts, Sex Addicts Anonymous offers a message of hope to anyone who suffers from sex addiction. Through long and painful experience, we came to realize that we were powerless over our sexual thoughts and behaviors and that our preoccupation with sex was causing progressively severe adverse consequences for us, our families, and our friends. Despite many failed promises to ourselves and attempts to change, we discovered that we were unable to stop acting out sexually by ourselves. Many of us came to this realization when we started attending SAA meetings. In that setting we heard stories similar to ours and realized that recovery from our problem was possible. We learned through the SAA Fellowship that we were not hopelessly defective."
    21. Survivors of Incest Anonymous - "We are a spiritual, self-help program of women and men, 18 years or older, who are guided by a set of 12 Suggested Steps and 12 Traditions, along with our Slogans and the Serenity Prayer. We define incest very broadly as a sexual encounter initiated by a family member or by an extended family member that damaged the child. By “extended family” we mean an aunt, uncle, in-law, stepparent, cousin, friend of the family, teacher, coach, another child, clergy or anyone that that betrayed the child’s trust. The only requirement for membership is that you are a victim of child sexual abuse, and you want to recover. There are no dues or fees in our meetings. If you feel that you belong, we believe you."
    22. Sexaholics Anonymous (S.A.) - ““Sexaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober. There are no dues or fees for SA membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions. SA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and help others to achieve sexual sobriety.* Sexaholics Anonymous is a recovery program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous and received permission from AA to use its Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in 1979.”
    23. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) “Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous. The only qualification for S.L.A.A. membership is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction.”- Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Website 
    24. Love Addicts Anonymous (L.A.A.) - “Love addiction comes in many forms. Some love addicts carry a torch for unavailable people. Some love addicts obsess when they fall in love. Some love addicts get addicted to the euphoric effects of romance. Others cannot let go of a toxic relationship even if they are unhappy, depressed, lonely, neglected or in danger. Some love addicts are codependent and others are narcissistic. Some love addicts use sex to manage feelings; others are sexually ambivalent. What we all have in common is that we are powerless over our distorted thoughts, feelings and behavior when it comes to love, fantasies and relationships. Still, there is hope. Through self-honesty, open-mindedness, willingness, and the 12-steps of LAA, we can recover. We can do together what we cannot do alone.We can grow and change in the sunlight of the spirit. Welcome to LAA. Welcome home!”
    25. Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (S.C.A.) - “Sexual Compulsives Anonymous is a twelve-step fellowship inclusive of all sexual orientations, open to anyone with a desire to recover from sexual compulsion. We are not group therapy, but a spiritual program that provides a safe environment for working on problems of sexual addiction and sexual sobriety. Our program is one of suggestions – not of rules. Each member is invited to “take what you like and leave the rest.” This means that you are free to use any tools and suggestions from SCA that work best for you.” 
    26. Sexual Recovery Anonymous (S.R.A.) - “Our program offers a path of recovery from sex addiction. Like all addictions, sex addiction interferes with the life process, and can even be life-threatening. SRA offers a way to stop compulsive sexual behavior through practicing the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. The list of statements in the section Do I Belong in SRA? will help you decide if you are addicted. This Website is also for the family members and friends of the sex addict who want to better understand sex addiction and where help can be obtained.” 
    27. Narcotics Anonymous (N.A.) - "NA is a nonprofit fellowship or society of men and women for whom drugs had become a major problem. We are recovering addicts who meet regularly to help each other stay clean. This is a program of complete abstinence from all drugs. There is only one requirement for membership, the desire to stop using. We suggest that you keep an open mind and give yourself a break. Our program is a set of principles written so simply that we can follow them in our daily lives. The most important thing about them is that they work."
    28. Al-Anon Family Groups - “Our personal situations may be different, but we share as equals because of what we have in common: our lives have been affected by another person’s drinking. Al-Anon is a mutual support group. We can find understanding and support when we share our common experience with each other. Some of us are here because a spouse or partner has struggled with alcoholism. For others, the problem drinker is a parent, child, or grandchild. Sometimes a brother, a sister, or some other friend or relative brings us to Al-Anon. Many of us have had more than one alcoholic family member or friend.” 
    29. Nar-Anon Family Groups  - "The Nar-Anon Family Groups is primarily for those who know or have known a feeling of desperation concerning the addiction problem of someone very near to you. We have traveled that unhappy road too, and found the answer with serenity and peace of mind. Narateen is part of the Nar-Anon program for teens affected by someone else’s addiction. Our program, which is not a religious one but a spiritual way of life, is based on the Twelve Steps of Nar-Anon. We've found that the working of these steps will bring the solution to practically any problem. We urge you to take this program and its twelve steps seriously. It has been as helpful to us as the Narcotics Anonymous program is to the addict. We only ask for the wisdom and courage to see ourselves as we really are, to do something about ourselves with the help of a Higher Power as we understand this, and for the grace to release our addicts with love and cease trying to change them."
    30. Families Anonymous (F.A.) - “FA is a 12 step fellowship for the family and friends of those individuals with drug, alcohol or related behavioral issues. We are here to help!”




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    Helpful Slogans

    Helpful Slogans

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    HELPFUL SLOGANS AND MASTER LIST OF ANONYMOUS GROUPS MEETING INFORMATION


    Here are some common slogans used in recovery circles. One way to use them is to write your favorite slogans on separate pieces of paper. Put them all in a small box and take one out every morning. Whatever the slogan is that you pick up, try to practice that slogan to the best of your ability for that day. After a while, the slogans will become a part of your every-day thoughts.

    • First Things First
    • Don't Act out No Matter What
    • This too Shall Pass
    • Live and Let Live
    • Let go and let God
    • Time takes time
    • One day at a time
    • Principles before personalities


    • Is your program powered by Will Power or Higher Power?
    • Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
    • Misery is optional
    • God doesn't make junk
    • Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less
    • Live life on life's terms
    • You can't think your way into a new way of living...you have to live your way into a new way of thinking
    • The key to freedom is in the Steps


    • GOD = Good Orderly Direction
    • HALT = don't get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
    • Your worth should never depend on another persons opinion
    • HOW it works = Honesty, Open mindedness, and Willingness
    • SLIP = Sobriety Lost Its Priority
    • Don't pick up, ask for help, call your sponsor, and go to meetings
    • It's a simple program for complicated people
    • The newcomer is the most important person in any meeting


    • Keep coming back, it works if you work it
    • Learn to listen and listen to learn
    • Many meetings, many chances; few meetings, few chances; no meetings, no chances
    • Meeting makers make it
    • People who don't go to meetings don't hear about what happens to people who don't go to meetings
    • To keep what you have, you have to give it away
    • How does it work? It works just fine
    • If you don't want to slip, stay away from slippery places


    • If you do what you always did, you'll get what you always got
    • If you sit in the barber's chair long enough, you'll eventually get a haircut
    • Most things can be preserved in alcohol; dignity, however, is not one of them
    • Progress, not perfection
    • Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die
    • think......think.......think
    • Keep it simple
    • Stick with the winners


    • H O P E = Happy Our Program Exists
    • Recovery is a journey ...not a destination
    • To thine own self be true
    • Turn it over
    • Nothing is so bad, a drink won't make it worse
    • Willingness is the key
    • Take what you need and leave the rest
    • If you expect respect, be the first to show some


    • Keep the plug in the jug
    • Do it sober
    • Although we are not responsible for our disease we are responsible for our recovery
    • Hugs not Drugs
    • Just for Today
    • Recovery doesn't happen overnight
    • Pass it on
    • If you want to stay clean, don't use


    • Don't quit before the miracle happens
    • Nobody ever found recovery as a result of an intellectual awakening
    • Use the 24-hour plan
    • When all else fails, follow directions
    • Change is a process, not an event
    • Call your sponsor before, not after, you take the first drink
    • Give time time
    • I was sick and tired of being sick and tired
    • You only get out of it what you put into it
    • It's the first drink that gets you drunk
    • An addict alone is in bad company
    • You can only keep what you have by giving it away
    • Take what you can use and leave the rest
    • Recovery begins with the First Step



    • Help is only a phone call away
    • Nothing changes if nothing changes
    • It is possible to change without improving - it is impossible to improve without change
    • Experience, strength and hope not opinions, bulls**t and dope
    • One drink is too many and a thousand not enough
    • An addict cannot be grateful and hateful at the same time
    • Easy does it
    • Easy does it but do it
    • Stick with the winners - Win with the stickers
    • Serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace amid the storm
    • Feelings are not facts
    • Turn it over, don't turn it off
    • Beneath every skirt is a slip
    • Seven days without a meeting makes one weak
    • Growing old is mandatory - Growing up is optional
    • Slogans are wisdom written in shorthand




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