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Helpful Books

As We Begin Our Therapeutic Journey Together, Consider Reading:

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The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

In The Four Agreements, bestselling author Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.


If You Are Working On A Full Disclosure, Please Purchase These Books

  • Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal by Dan Drake, Janice Caudill - Have your secret sexual behaviors recently been discovered? Are you stuck in knowing what to share, how much to share, and how to not traumatize your partner with too many gory details about your past? Has your therapist asked you to do a "Formal Disclosure" but you have no idea how to do that? Do you want to begin a life of honesty, integrity, and transparency? IF ANY OF THOSE QUESTIONS APPLY, THIS WORKBOOK IS FOR YOU. This guide walks you through a comprehensive approach to providing a full disclosure of your sexual past to your partner. We help you break down the entire process, offering you a step-by-step approach to sharing your past and restoring a foundation of truth in your relationship.

  • Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal: Volume 1: How Disclosure Can Help You Heal by Janice Caudill, Dan Drake. - THIS BOOK IS FOR PARTNERS WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED SEXUAL BETRAYAL. Have you discovered your partner's sexual secrets? Are you looking for a way to seek the extent of the betrayal you've experienced in a safe way? If you're looking for a guide to help you walk through the Full Disclosure process, we've designed this workbook series to help you. In this volume, you will learn what a Full Disclosure is and determine if it's right for you. Volume 2 will help you prepare for the Full Disclosure. Volume 3 will help you heal post-disclosure. Through examples, questions, and through the shared experiences of others, we've created a supportive way for you to navigate a complex, difficult process. Designed to be used with your partner's companion workbook, "Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal," this resource can help you heal after sexual betrayal.

  • Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal - Volume Two for Partners: Preparing for Disclosure on Your Terms by Janice Caudill, Dan Drake- Have you discovered sexual betrayal? Are you unable to heal your heart and relationship from betrayal trauma without knowing the full truth? Have you determined that you need a professionally-guided disclosure but are unsure how to prepare so your needs are addressed? If any of those questions apply, this workbook series is for you. Volume Two for Partners assists you in preparing for a disclosure on your own terms, by defining your needs and how to get them fulfilled, your boundaries and how to stand firm in them, and your personal healing by how you prepare yourself. This step-by-step guide not only helps you survive the painful experience of coming into full truth, but also supports you to grow stronger along the way. Used in companion with your spouse’s version, Full Disclosure: How to Share Truth After Sexual Betrayal, these parallel workbooks guide each of you through a therapeutic disclosure with a common understanding, common language, and a common goal of restoring the foundation of truth in your relationship.




Reading For Betrayed Partners

  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens and  Marsha Means -  Your Sexually Addicted Partner shatters the stigma and shame that millions of men and women carry when their partners are sexually addicted. They receive little empathy for their pain, which means they suffer alone, often shocked and isolated by the trauma. Barbara Steffens' groundbreaking new research shows that partners are not codependents but post-traumatic stress victims, while Marsha Means' personal experience provides insights, strategies, and critical steps to recognize, deal with, and heal partners of sexually addicted relationships.
  • Open Hearts - Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality by Patrick Carnes - Open Hearts is a book a couple reads together. It takes techniques that Carnes and the Laasers developed in their psychotherapy practices and weaves them into a series of individual and joint exercises. It looks at tough issues: shame, anger, money, betrayal, sex, parenting. It encourages fun: drawing up a family motto, expressing spirituality together, taking gentleness breaks.
  • Facing Heartbreak- by Stefanie Carnes, PhD, Mari A. Lee, LMFT and Anthony D.Rodriguez, LCSW. - When you discover that the person you loved and trusted most in the world is hiding a secret life as a sex addict, the result can be devastating. Facing that heartbreak is what this book is all about. The healing process will take time regardless of whether you decide to stay in the relationship or leave. Facing Heartbreak weaves real life stories with practical therapeutic advice and specific tasks that gently educate, empower, and guide the partner of the sex addict through a process of recovery. Using Dr. Patrick Carnes' thirty-task sex recovery model, readers will learn to heal from the heartbreak and betrayal as they discover hope and healing.
  • Mending a Shattered Heart by Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D. - Anyone who has discovered their loved one, the one person that they are supposed to trust completely, has been cheating on them will want to read this book. Readers have an opportunity to explore whether the person they are in a relationship with is simply behaving badly or truly suffers from a disease called sex addiction. Knowing the difference and knowing what to do about it can be transformational.
  • The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes - Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds--chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power. In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.
  • Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships by Kelly McDaniel. - Ready to Heal provides an opportunity for women to break free from painful addictive relationships. Kelly McDaniel provides the reader with the tools they will need to move along the path of living a life where intimacy is possible. Readers have an opportunity to begin to "connect the dots" in their own relationship patterns by following the stories of four brave women.
  • “An Affair of the Mind" by Laurie Hall -  Laurie Hall's story reveals pornography's subversive side and offers comfort, encouragement, insight, and a plan of action to women whose husbands are addicted.
  • Prodependence: Moving Beyond Dependency by Robert Weiss - With Prodependence, Dr. Robert Weiss offers us the first fully new paradigm in over 35 years for helping those who love and care for addicts. An attachment-focused model, prodependence recognizes that no one can ever love too much, nor should anyone be pathologized for whomever they choose to love as is often the case. 
  • Journey To The Heart-Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul by Melody Beattie - Beattie, author of Codependent No More, Beyond Codependency, and Lessons of Love, writes with the same warmth, honesty, and compassion in this collection, helping readers chart a new path toward spiritual growth and renewal. Journey to the Heart will comfort and inspire us all as we begin to discover our true purpose in the world and learn to connect even more deeply with ourselves, the creative force, and the magic and mystery in the world around and within us.
  • Reflections of Hope by S-Anon - S-Anon’s first daily meditation book. Reflections of Hope embraces the voices of S-Anon men, women and teens, all touched by the effects of another person’s sexual behavior. This collection of readings reflects the hope that comes from the experience of banding together to solve our common problems.
  • After the Affair - Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D. - Written by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., a nationally known therapist and acknowledged expert on infidelity, this revised and updated version brings the groundbreaking classic into the 21st century, with a new section dealing with online affairs in cyberspace. For women who are struggling in their marriage—and for clinicians, psychology academics and readers fascinated by of popular psychology—this newly revised and updated edition of After the Affair is essential reading.
  • Boundaries Where You End And I Begin: How To Recognize And Set Healthy Boundaries by Anne Katherine M.A. - Have you recently walked away from a date or a conversation feeling uncomfortable or violated? Are you looking for ways to set limits with your spouse, kids, parents, or boss? This essential guide to setting and respecting boundaries is for anyone wanting to better understand themselves and others.
  • Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud, John Townsend - In Boundaries in Marriage, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, teach us that healthy boundaries are the property lines that define and protect you and your spouse as individuals. Once you have them in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.
  • Boundaries in Marriage Workbook by Henry Cloud, John Townsend - This hands-on workbook companion to Boundaries in Marriage will help you move beyond friction points to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy you and your spouse long for.
  • Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell - A go-to guide on how to confront, heal from, and ultimately thrive after the devastation of betrayal by a partner's compulsive sexual or other addictive behavior The first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create, and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth. 
  • I love you but I don't trust you by Mira Kirshenbaum - Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged. In this complete guide, couples therapist Mira Kirshenbaum will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process is allowed to take place. And you will learn how the two of you can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and discover how to feel secure with each other again.
  • Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child by Laura Davis - Based on in-depth interviews and her workshops for partners across the country, Laura Davis offers practical advice and encouragement to all partners—girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, and lovers—trying to support the survivors in their lives while tending to their own needs along the way. She shows couples how to deepen compassion, improve communication, and develop an understanding of healing as a shared activity. 
  • The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner - In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.
  • Help.Them.Heal Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship- By Carol Juergensen Sheets - An empathy workbook and wonderful companion to Carol's best-selling Help. Her. Heal. This workbook is for couples to help them heal their relationship following sexual betrayal.
  • Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships by Kelly McDaniel. - Ready to Heal provides an opportunity for women to break free from painful addictive relationships. Kelly McDaniel provides the reader with the tools they will need to move along the path of living a life where intimacy is possible. Readers have an opportunity to begin to "connect the dots" in their own relationship patterns by following the stories of four brave women.
  • Intimate Treason by Claudia Black - A self-help manual for partners affected by sex addiction Those who act out sexually, whether through pornography, cybersex, prostitutes, voyeurism, and/or multiple affairs, leave their partners reeling in rage, incredible shame, and isolation. In this taboo-shattering and practical guidebook, partners affected by sex addiction can learn to develop healthy boundaries and make positive changes in their lives.
  • The Betrayed Husband's Survival Guide by Gary Owens -  The Betrayed Husband’s Survival Guide shares practical tips and advice as the author shares his story of recovery from betrayal by a sexually addicted spouse.
  •  Ambushed by Betrayal by Allan J Katz and Michele Saffier CSATS - Infidelity, gaslighting, and deception shatter the most sacred part of a committed relationship, the attachment. The foundation upon which your relationship house is built is demolished in an instant, leaving unsuspecting partners in rubble and twisted wires trying to make sense of what just happened. This is Betrayal Trauma. With the experience and wisdom of twenty-four years working with betrayed partners and utilizing the methods developed, Michele F. Saffier and Allan J. Katz offer you a self-guided process of healing, unlike any other—a heroes’ journey.
  • For Love and Money by Debra Kaplan - For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual and Financial Betrayal in Relationships turns a provocative, literary lens on the worlds of sex, money and relational power. After closing a successful chapter on Wall Street, Ms. Kaplan merged her fascination with narcissism, power and control with her studies in psychology. For over a decade, Ms. Kaplan has been a licensed psychotherapist treating problems related to sex addiction, money, and relationships. For Love and Money, delivers an unparalleled and cutting-edge perspective about sexual, financial and relational exploitation from Wall Street to Main Street; boardroom to bedroom. This exploration merges academic investigation, therapeutic narrative and case study. It is a ground breaking must read for those individuals interested in restoring sexual and financial health to your life and your loves.
  • The Couple's Guide to Intimacy: How Sexual Reintegration Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal by Dr. Bill Bercaw CSAT CST, Dr. Ginger Bercaw CSAT CST -  "How can we have a healthy sex life after sex addiction?" We have answered this question by developing Sexual Reintegration Therapy(SRT). If you have a vision for a better relationship, SRT gives you the plan. Even if you cannot see clearly how your wounded relationship can be healed, SRT will offer you that hope. SRT consists of a progressive series of clearly defined experiences (that we have been using successfully with our clients for years) that will help you address core intimacy issues that need upgrading. 
  • Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes - Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives. Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research--and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction--this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.
  • Out of the Doghouse by Rob Weiss - Men and women are very different when it comes to relationships, and this difference is amplified when a man cheats. While men are able to compartmentalize things like casual sex, women typically view any form of cheating as an affront to their entire relationship. They think: "If he is lying to me about sex, he's probably lying to me about everything." For betrayed women, trust just flat-out disintegrates. Without proper guidance, men--who are often unaware of the type and degree of pain they have caused their spouse--have little chance of restoring it. Underneath the hurt and betrayal, usually there is still love. Where there is love and motivation for change, there is hope for the relationship to move forward. Robert Weiss, a nationally acclaimed expert in the treatment of sex, infidelity, and intimacy issues, has spent over 25 years helping couples find peace and healing. In "Out of the Doghouse" he shares his expertise, illuminating the concrete steps men can take to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and save their primary relationship. He also gives direction to women on how to know when it is okay to move beyond fear, suspicion, and remorse to a place of hope and relationship renewal.
  • The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love by Pia Mellody - In her first book in over 10 years, Pia Mellody—author of the groundbreaking bestsellers Facing Codependence and Facing Love Addiction—shares her profound wisdom on what it takes to sustain true intimacy and trusting love in our most vital relationships. Drawing on more than 20 years' experience as a counsellor at the renowned Meadows Treatment Centre in Arizona, Mellody now shares what she has learned about why intimate relationships falter—and what makes them work. Using the most up–to–date research and real–life examples, including her own compelling personal journey, Mellody provides readers with profoundly insightful and practical ground rules for relationships that achieve and maintain joyous intimacy.
  • Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody - Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.
  • Courageous Love: A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal by Stefanie Carnes - Leading marriage expert Dr. Stefanie Carnes explains her time-tested strategy to help couples conquer fear and restore their trust, intimacy and connection following a betrayal. There is nothing that can rupture the loving connection between a couple like betrayal. Courageous Love provides a step-by-step guide for repairing your relationship, whether it is damaged by infidelity, pornography, or compulsive and addictive sexual behavior. Dr. Carnes teaches couples how to respond to one another with compassion and empathy and how to hold onto hope for their relationship.
  • Sex, God, & the Chaos of Betrayal: The Couples' Road Map of Hope & Healing - Recovery from Infidelity, Affairs, Pornography & Sexual Addiction by Roane Hunter, Eva Hunter. - Every person today knows someone who has been impacted by the devastating effects of sexual brokenness in one of its various manifestations - porn addiction, affairs, sexual compulsivity and sex addiction. The individuals and couples who have been affected by sexual brokenness in the form of sexual betrayal universally report that it is one of the most emotionally gut-wrenching experiences anyone can endure. They will often describe it as feeling “worse than death,” and many say they would rather die. Roane and Eva Hunter offer a raw and transparent account of the difficult path they have traveled together in dealing with sexual addiction. The result is their ability to offer a comprehensive road map for recovery. 
  • Unstuck: Move from Powerless to Empowered in Your Relationships by Charlene Benson - Are You Stuck in a Relationship Ditch? Finding yourself in in conflict in a relationship—for the first or umpteenth time—leads to feeling frustrated and powerless, like you’re stuck in a ditch. Relationship coach Charlene Benson shows you how to experience change and gain momentum by helping you:  Understand the hidden reasons that drive your behaviors ; Ditch old patterns and embrace a healthier way of loving and experiencing love ; Discover powerful pathways to help you avoid giving up in defeat or getting stuck at an impasse ; Choose effective responses over toxic reactions. 
  • Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal: Volume 1: How Disclosure Can Help You Heal by Janice Caudill, Dan Drake. - THIS BOOK IS FOR PARTNERS WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED SEXUAL BETRAYAL. Have you discovered your partner's sexual secrets? Are you looking for a way to seek the extent of the betrayal you've experienced in a safe way? If you're looking for a guide to help you walk through the Full Disclosure process, we've designed this workbook series to help you. In this volume, you will learn what a Full Disclosure is and determine if it's right for you. Volume 2 will help you prepare for the Full Disclosure. Volume 3 will help you heal post-disclosure. Through examples, questions, and through the shared experiences of others, we've created a supportive way for you to navigate a complex, difficult process. Designed to be used with your partner's companion workbook, "Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal," this resource can help you heal after sexual betrayal.
  • Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal - Volume Two for Partners: Preparing for Disclosure on Your Terms by Janice Caudill, Dan Drake- Have you discovered sexual betrayal? Are you unable to heal your heart and relationship from betrayal trauma without knowing the full truth? Have you determined that you need a professionally-guided disclosure but are unsure how to prepare so your needs are addressed? If any of those questions apply, this workbook series is for you. Volume Two for Partners assists you in preparing for a disclosure on your own terms, by defining your needs and how to get them fulfilled, your boundaries and how to stand firm in them, and your personal healing by how you prepare yourself. This step-by-step guide not only helps you survive the painful experience of coming into full truth, but also supports you to grow stronger along the way. Used in companion with your spouse’s version, Full Disclosure: How to Share Truth After Sexual Betrayal, these parallel workbooks guide each of you through a therapeutic disclosure with a common understanding, common language, and a common goal of restoring the foundation of truth in your relationship.
  • Should I Stay Or Go? : How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage by Lee Raffel -  Until now, couples facing the dilemma of deciding whether or not to stay in an unhappy marriage had three options: individual or couples therapy, separation, or divorce. Should I Stay or Go? provides these couples with a fourth option--the Controlled Separation (CS). Should I Stay or Go? explains CS and shows how it can be used as a tool to help couples make the best decision for both partners.
  • Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirschenbaum - There are many books that promise to help you fix a bad relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should even try—or if you need to go.  Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems: • What sins are forgivable and which ones are unpardonable? • Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself? • What is your sex life really like, and how important is it? • Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable? Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.
  • The Journey: Hope For Spouses Walking Through The Valley of Sexual Addiction by Melissa Haas - 15-week interactive study Written for spouses of sexually broken men, Journey is a 10-week counseling and support group for women facing betrayal and loss. Using the Journey workbook, women will work through topics such as ‘Angry – but not Stuck’; ‘Admitting Fears’; ‘Setting Limits’; and ‘Trusting Wisely’.
  • Surviving Disclosure: A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust by Jennifer P Schneider M.D., M. Deborah Corley Ph.D. - Surviving Disclosure, helps partners better understand the trauma resulting from the addict’s behaviors and offers a step-by-step guide for how to begin the healing process, prepare for the impact of living with an addict (even an addict in recovery), and deal with shame, anger and fear. The book describes what to tell the children and others, how to promote self-care and well-being no matter what the addict does, and how to set boundaries as part of rebuilding trust.
  • The Betrayed Husband’s Survival Guide by Gary Owens - My wife cheated on me. The texts, pics, dates, and liaisons with other men created the most horrific moments of my life. Being married to a love and sex addict was traumatizing, but I survived, and so can you. Rediscovering your identity, finding help, and recovering will be some of the toughest but winnable battles of your life. The Betrayed Husband’s Survival Guide shares practical tips and advice as the author shares his story of recovery from betrayal by a sexually addicted spouse.
  • Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss PhD LCSW - Sex Addiction 101 covers everything from what sexual addiction is and how it can best be treated, to how it affects various subgroups of the population such as women, gays, and teenagers. The book also provides sex addicts with strategies to protect themselves from the online sexual onslaught. Sex Addiction 101 is intended to enlighten the clinical population as well as actual sex addicts and their loved ones. 
  • Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by William M. Struthers - In this book neuroscientist and researcher William Struthers explains how pornography affects the male brain and what we can do about it. Because we are embodied beings, viewing pornography changes how the brain works, how we form memories and make attachments. By better understanding the biological realities of our sexual development, we can cultivate healthier sexual perspectives and interpersonal relationships. Struthers exposes false assumptions and casts a vision for a redeemed masculinity, showing how our sexual longings can actually propel us toward sanctification and holiness in our bodies. With insights for both married and single men alike, this book offers hope for freedom from pornography.
  •  Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity by Mark Chamberlain - Love You, Hate the Porn shows couples how to identify and address vulnerabilities in their relationship. Offers healing advice for spouses. Provides help for the struggling partner to avoid relapse. Focuses on how to make the marriage relationship stronger than it was before.
  • Stop Sex Addiction: Real Hope, True Freedom for Sex Addicts and Partners by Milton S Magness - Compulsive sexual behavior is often difficult to face. Sex addiction results in countless negative consequences and hurts many people. Relationships, marriages, families, and careers are destroyed. Anyone afflicted with sex addiction, as well as the people who love them, can find help within this book.
  • How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self  by Nicole LePera - In How to Do the Work, she offers both a manifesto for Self Healing as well as an essential guide to creating a more vibrant, authentic, and joyful life. Drawing on the latest research from a diversity of scientific fields and healing modalities, Dr. LePera helps us recognize how adverse experiences and trauma in childhood live with us, resulting in whole body dysfunction—activating harmful stress responses that keep us stuck engaging in patterns of codependency, emotional immaturity, and trauma bonds. Unless addressed, these self-sabotaging behaviors can quickly become cyclical, leaving people feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and unwell. In How to Do the Work, Dr. LePera offers readers the support and tools that will allow them to break free from destructive behaviors to reclaim and recreate their lives. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, this is a celebration of empowerment that will forever change the way we approach mental wellness and self-care.
  • Conscious Uncoupling: 5 steps to living happily even after by Katherine Woodward Thomas -  Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of Calling in "The One" and creator of the groundbreaking method, Conscious Uncoupling, provides the valuable skills and tools for you to travel this challenging terrain with these five thoughtful and thought-provoking steps: Step 1: Find Emotional Freedom Step 2: Reclaim Your Power and Your Life Step 3: Break the Pattern, Heal Your Heart Step 4: Become a Love Alchemist Step 5: Create Your Happy Even After Life . 
  • The State Of Affairs-Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel - The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”    
  • Post-Romantic Stress Disorder: What to Do When the Honeymoon Is Over by John Bradshaw - In Post-Romantic Stress Disorder (PRSD), Bradshaw gives readers a clear explanation of the difference between falling in love, lust, and true love. Based on his research, PRSD is a deeply serious psychological disorder and the cause of 40% of all divorces –divorces that could have been prevented. Every day people throw away perfectly good relationships because they just don't know how to navigate the tides, but if they could learn and understand the concepts Bradshaw presents in this book, the portrait of the family unit could have a whole new landscape.
  • Unleashing Your Power: Moving Through the Trauma of Partner Betrayal by Carol Juergensen Sheets and Christine Turo-Shields - This workbook was written to assist partners in finding themselves again after their relationship has been shattered by sexual betrayal. Bestselling author, Carol Juergensen Sheets, co-wrote this book with Christine Turo-Shields to help partners move through the 3 stages of partner betrayal. The workbook assists you in finding safety and stabilization by working through your feelings of confusion, disorientation and self-doubt which is a natural by-product of deception. 
  • Should I Stay or Should I Go? - A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can- And Should- Be Saved by Lundy Bangcroft and Jac Patrissi - If you’re involved in a chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationship, the advice and exercises in this book will help you learn to: • Tell the difference between a healthy—yet difficult—relationship and one that is really not working • Recognize the signs that your partner has serious problems • Stop waiting to see what will happen—and make your own growth the top priority • Design a clear plan of action for you and your partner  • Navigate the waters of a relationship that’s improving • Prepare for life without your partner, even as you keep trying to make life work with them.
  • Daily Wisdom for ‘Why Does He Do That?’” - Lundy Bancroft - collection of meditations is a source of strength and reassurance designed to speak to women like you, women in relationships with angry and controlling men. It is a tool you can use to learn how to value and respect yourself—even when your partner makes it very clear that he does not.
  • A Partner’s Guide to Truth and Healing: A Healing Journey for Betrayed Partners by John Sternfels, LPC, NCC,CCPS,CSAT,CMAT,C-SASI. - When infidelity occurs, betrayed partners enter into a state of emotional distress. In a flash, their world is suddenly turned upside down. With no help in sight, no one to turn to, and no one to help, they find themselves alone, shocked, angry, and scared. Their world becomes filled with hypervigilance, avoidance behaviors, flashbacks, sleep disturbances, mood and health problems, rumination thoughts, etc. Contained within the pages of this book, John Sternfels provides a pathway to truth and healing. Partners will gain a clearer understanding of what has happened and what is needed to heal. Regardless of where you are in the journey, betrayal is a season in a partner's life but must not become a destination or a permanent identity.
  • Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men by Joe Kort - Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi? is intended to help couples understand how male sexuality can express itself in ways that may be difficult to understand. Many marriages have been hurriedly terminated when couples (and their therapists) have lacked the information they needed to understand their current situations. This book provides the clarity, describes the choices, and (in many cases) offers hope for relationships and marriages that have been brushed off as doomed.
  • Tell Me No Lies by Ellen Bayer, Ph.D. - Everybody lies. Friends lie to friends. Children lie to their parents. Politicians lie to constituents. And, inevitably, husbands and wives lie to each other. Lies between lovers have tremendous potential to both nurture and destroy a relationship. It is easy to underestimate the power that lies-even seemingly harmless lies-can wield in your marriage. Tell Me No Lies explores the complexity of honesty versus deception in marriage and reveals the many reasons behind the lies we tell our partners (and ourselves).
  • From the Living Room to the Bedroom: The Modern Couples Guide to Sexual Abundance and Lasting Intimacy by Dr. Bill and Ginger Bercaw, PsyD, CST, CSAT. - The exercises we’ve chosen for this book focus squarely on improving your Living Room (emotional intimacy) and Bedroom (sexual intimacy) connection. The resulting positive feedback loop between the two rooms of your relationship is what we call CoupleFlow™, which is a stronger, brighter, more resilient and more passionate partnership that is more than capable of facing the many challenges posed by our crazy-busy, tech-bombarded, running in a million different directions culture. 
  • Codependents’ Guide to the Twelve Steps by Melody Beattie - The New York Times bestselling self-help book that offers advice on how to find and choose the recovery program for you, as well as a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs, including AA, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and more.
  • Always Aware: Recovery & Healing from Alcohol & Drugs by James S. Cusack - If you have a loved one or friend caught-up in the vortex of addiction or chemical dependency, then the Cusack formula presented here is a place to start understanding the disease, and a beginning in understanding how the disease affects you. The words in this book help comfort you from the fear that you are the only one with a tremendous weight on your shoulders—you are not alone. Through the 12-Step program that you will read about, recovery and healing begin with love and caring. Family love and caring form the essence of a proven treatment approach that can only be learned by doing. 
  • Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Sheri Coffer -  Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt.
  • Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide by Tracy Schorn - Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity -- but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters -- their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.
  • When He's Married to Mom: How to help Mother-Enmeshed open their hearts to True Love and Commitment by Dr. Ken Adams - A practical, compassionate relationship guide for women who are involved with mother-enmeshed men, mothers who wish to set their sons free, and men dealing with issues of commitment, sex addiction, and unhealthy attachments. Why can't he commit? Many women find themselves asking this question when in love with a man who won't get married, won't stop womanizing, or refuses to give up his sex addictions. Often this kind of man is bound by an unhealthy attachment to his mother. This phenomenon is called "mother-son enmeshment." In When He's Married to Mom, clinical psychologist and renowned intimacy expert Dr. Kenneth M. Adams goes beyond the stereotypes of momma's boys and meddling mothers to explain how mother-son enmeshment affects everyone: the mother, the son, and the woman who loves him. In his twenty-five years of practice, Dr. Adams has successfully treated hundreds of enmeshed men and shares their stories in this informative guide. He provides proven methods to make things better, including:—Guidelines to help women create fulfilling relationships with mother-enmeshed men—Tools to help mother-enmeshed men have healthy and successful dating experiences leading to serious relationships and marriage—Strategies to help parents avoid enmeshing their children.

Books for Parents: 

  • The New Age of Sex Education: How to Talk to Your Teen About Cybersex and Pornography in the Digital Age by Jennifer Weeks - In Dr. Jennifer Week’s first prevention book, parents will learn how their teens are interacting online and how exposure to online sexuality can affect them. Parents will also learn how their own issues with sex and sexuality influence how they either do or do not talk to their children about sex. Finally, this book provides parents with practical tips on how to talk to their children about digital sexuality as well as how to ascertain if their child has a problem with pornography or other online sexual behaviors.
  • The Rest of the Way: Healing Barriers Between Gays, Lesbians, and Their Parents by Enid Duchin Jackowitz - psychotherapist Enid Duchin Jackowitz has included two sets of Questions for Reflection at the end of each chapter. There is one set of questions for parents, and one for gay sons and daughters to help encourage understanding and initiate a dialogue. Sprinkled with compelling stories and insights the book recounts Enid’s journey of self-discovery that led her to unconditional acceptance of her gay son in a most genuine and heartfelt way. The book, both provocative and thought provoking, offers keen observations in the struggle parents often face when coming to terms with having a gay child.
  • Mom, Dad, I’m Gay: How Families Negotiate Coming Out by Ritch Savin-Williams - Drawing from over 150 original interviews with teens, psychologist Ritch Savin-Williams separates fact from fiction in this survey of coming out experiences. Drawing from existing developmental research, he illustrates the wide range of family reactions and discusses the factors that determine how parents come to terms with the disclosure over time. He reveals that the coming out experience is greatly influenced by gender, and chapters highlight common mother-daughter, mother-son, father-daughter, and father-son dynamics.
  • Is It a Choice? Answers to the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Gay and Lesbian People by Eric Marcus - he answers to all the questions you've ever had about sexual orientation but were afraid to ask. Eric Marcus provides insightful, no-nonsense answers to hundreds of the most commonly asked questions about same-sex orientation. Offering frank and accepting insight on everything you've always wanted-and needed-to know about same-gender relationships, coming out, family roles, politics, and much more, including: How do you know if you're gay or lesbian? What should you do if your child is gay or lesbian? Do gay parents raise gay children? What does the Bible say about homosexuality?
  • The Sex Education Answer Book: By the Age Responses to Tough Questions Kids Ask Parents About Sex by Cath Hakanson -  The Sex Education Answer Book is the definitive guide to answering your child’s questions: Unsure where to begin? The answer book’s opening section helps you get started, and explains why asking questions is so important while putting to rest any fears or doubts you may have. Includes child-friendly answers to more than 200 commonly asked questions! With content organized by age group, navigation is quick and easy. Learn how to speak to your child about reproduction, sex, bodies, relationships, pregnancy, masturbation, sexual diversity, gender, STIs, and more!
  • Break Free of Child Anxiety and OCD: A Scientifically Proven Program for Parents by Eli R. Lebowitz - Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD: A Scientifically Proven Program for Parents is the first and only book to provide a completely parent-based treatment program for child and adolescent anxiety. Parents will learn how to alleviate their children's anxiety by changing the way they themselves respond to their children's symptoms--importantly, parents are not required to impose changes on their children's behavior. Instead, parents are shown how to replace their own accommodating behaviors (which allow anxiety to flourish) with supportive responses that demonstrate both acceptance of children's difficulties and confidence in their ability to cope. 
  • Parents Guide to Teenager Anxiety and Depression by S.L. Clark - In Parents Guide to Teenager Anxiety and Depression, you will discover: 25+ effective strategies to build a positive home and help your teen overcome the struggles of anxiety and depression ; The mind of your teen – dive into their brain and understand what goes on inside to paint a better picture ; The emotional rollercoaster that comes with being a teen – uncover what it is that leads to anxiety and depression; The true role of a parent so you can make sure you are raising your teen the right way; The truth about anxiety and depression in teens – know the symptoms, signs, and causes; A look into the online world – understand what kind of teen your child is in this new, innovative world; The results of anxiety and depression – stop your child from succumbing to substance abuse or suicide before it’s too late. 
  • Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents: How to Help your Child (Of Any Age) With BPD by Randi Kreger - With this comprehensive resource, you will learn all about borderline personality disorder, how it shows up in children, adolescents, and your adult children, how to obtain proper treatment, and how to manage your child’s condition at home. You’ll find proven-effective strategies to help you communicate and improve your relationship with your child of any age, and, as a result, improve your own life as a parent and an individual. You’ll also find real stories and advice from parents who have also experienced raising a child with BPD.





Books for Children/Teens:  

  • Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids by Kristen A Jenson , Debbie Fox. - Featuring easy-to-understand science and simple analogies, this internationally-acclaimed book engages young kids to porn-proof their own brains. With Good Pictures Bad Pictures, your child will never be caught off guard by disturbing videos or peer pressure! The 5-point CAN DO Plan™ teaches kids exactly what to do to protect their young minds when they see pornography. For kids 6-12 years old. 
  • Good Pictures, Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids/Jr. Version: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds by Kristen A. Jensen, MA and Gail Poyner, PhD - Young children deserve to be armed early against internet dangers. Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr. makes it easy for parents to protect their young kids ages 3 to 6. Using gentle, age-appropriate messages, children will learn to Turn, Run & Tell when they are accidentally exposed to inappropriate content.
  • It’s So Amazing: A Book About Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies and Families by Robie H. Harris - An outstanding book. . . . Meets the needs of those in-between or curious kids who are not ready, developmentally or emotionally, for It’s Perfectly Normal.” —Booklist (starred review) How does a baby begin? What makes a baby male or female? How is a baby born? Children have plenty of questions about reproduction and babies—and about sex and sexuality, too. It’s So Amazing! provides the answers—with fun, accurate, comic-book-style artwork and a clear, lively text that reflects the interests of children age seven and up in how things work, while giving them a healthy understanding of their bodies.
  • It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health by Robie H. Harris - A cutting-edge resource for kids, parents, teachers, librarians, and anyone else who cares about the well-being of tweens and teens. Providing accurate and up-to-date answers to nearly every imaginable question, from conception and puberty to birth control and AIDS, IT'S PERFECTLY NORMAL offers young people the information they need — now more than ever — to make responsible decisions and stay healthy.
  • Daddy’s Secret Cedar Chest by Geoff Goodman, PhD - Children of sex addicts need to know that they are not alone in their suffering, that help is available to them, and that families do get better with treatment. These children need to know that they did not cause their parent's sex addiction, nor can they control or cure it. Through words and pictures, Daddy's Secret Cedar Chest conveys this powerful message for children ages 6 to 12.
  • The Anxiety Toolkit for Teens by Teen Thrive - “THE ANXIETY TOOLKIT FOR TEENS” is one of the most teen-friendly anxiety books you will ever come across that will give you the tools, practices, and strategies to address it head on. This indispensable guide is loaded with useful information that’s easy-to-read, fun, and engaging while providing exactly what it says it will – a toolkit to understand and manage stress, anxiety, worry and panic.
  • When Harley Has Anxiety by Regine Galanti, PhD. - Expert psychologist and best-selling author Dr. Regine Galanti offers an activity book that teaches kids how to be brave and feel less anxious. All children get anxious sometimes. For some kids, though, anxi­ety can become something bigger and more intrusive, stopping them from enjoying friends, family, activities, sports, or school. Through a friendly character, colorful illustrations, and fun activities made specifically for kids ages 5 to 9, they will learn cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) strategies to allow them to work through anxious situations on their own. By practicing these strategies, kids will develop the skills needed to manage their anxiety by changing their worried thoughts, behaviors, and physical reactions.
  • Everyone Feels Anxious Sometimes- A Kids Guide to Overcoming Anxiety by Dr. Daniela Owen - It’s okay to feel anxious sometimes. But if we let it grow, it can turn into a never-ending tornado of worry and dizzy spells. In this book, kids will learn soothing strategies that help boost calmness. Kids will feel empowered in overcoming worries, stress, and fear so that they can finally ease anxiety and stay focused on the things that bring them joy.
  • A Little SPOT of Emotion 8 Book Box Set ( Books 1-8: Anger, Anxiety, Peaceful, Happiness, Sadness, Confidence, Love, & Scribble Emotion) by Diane Alber - Learning Emotions and Social Skills with SPOTS.

Reading For The Unfaithful Or Sex Addicted Partner

  • Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook for Sex Addicts to Help their Partners Heal by Carol Juergensen Sheets and Allan J. Katz - Carol Juergenen Sheets and Allan J. Katz have created a workbook/roadmap for rebuilding relationships damaged by sexual addiction and other forms of infidelity. With a focus on empathy – understanding what the betrayed partner is feeling; the exercises in this guidebook will help sex addicts rebuild lost trust and intimacy. This is a recipe for healing a broken relationship.
  • Help.Them.Heal Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship- By Carol Juergensen Sheets - An empathy workbook and wonderful companion to Carol's best-selling Help. Her. Heal. This workbook is for couples to help them heal their relationship following sexual betrayal.
  • Sex Addiction; Wisdom From the Masters by Carol Juergensen Sheets - This book shares the wisdom from the most prolific sexual addiction experts in the world talking about sexual addiction, shame, trauma, trauma reenactment, partner betrayal, partner pain, love addiction, and other issues that contribute to compulsive sexual acting out.
  • How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair by Linda MacDonald - How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance. Learn what Successful Rebuilders know:* How to avoid the potholes that doom marriages after affairs* Critical guidelines for the first hours after discovery * 15 essential steps for repair after betrayal* Skills to cope with your partner's obsessions and "triggers"* Ways to undo the damage from your lies * The keys to avoid prolonging your spouse's agony (and yours)* The difference between helpful and harmful apologies*
  • The Couple's Guide to Intimacy: How Sexual Reintegration Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal by Dr. Bill Bercaw CSAT CST, Dr. Ginger Bercaw CSAT CST. -  "How can we have a healthy sex life after sex addiction?" We have answered this question by developing Sexual Reintegration Therapy(SRT). If you have a vision for a better relationship, SRT gives you the plan. Even if you cannot see clearly how your wounded relationship can be healed, SRT will offer you that hope. SRT consists of a progressive series of clearly defined experiences (that we have been using successfully with our clients for years) that will help you address core intimacy issues that need upgrading.
  • Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred by Patrick J Carnes Ph.D - A first-time examination of sexual anorexia, an extreme fear of sexual intimacy and obsessive avoidance of sex, by the acknowledged leader in the treatment of compulsive sexual behavior and recovery. Author Dr. Patrick Carnes begins by defining sexual anorexia and demonstrating how it and its parallel disorder, sexual addiction and compulsivity, often arise from a background of childhood sexual trauma, neglect, and other forms of abuse. Carnes explores the numerous dimensions of sexual health, examining key issues which must be addressed and resolved for recovery to proceed.
  • Out of the shadows: Understanding sexual addiction by Patrick Carnes - Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives. Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research--and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction--this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.
  • Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery by Patrick Carnes - Facing the Shadow, used by thousands of therapists with their clients, is based on the thirty-task model of recovery from addiction that forms the basis of Carnes's work. This newly revised and expanded edition takes readers through the first seven of those tasks, including specific performables that are built in to the exercises. The model also supports Twelve Step recovery programs.
  • Out of the Doghouse by Rob Weiss - Men and women are very different when it comes to relationships, and this difference is amplified when a man cheats. While men are able to compartmentalize things like casual sex, women typically view any form of cheating as an affront to their entire relationship. They think: "If he is lying to me about sex, he's probably lying to me about everything." For betrayed women, trust just flat-out disintegrates. Without proper guidance, men--who are often unaware of the type and degree of pain they have caused their spouse--have little chance of restoring it. Underneath the hurt and betrayal, usually there is still love. Where there is love and motivation for change, there is hope for the relationship to move forward. Robert Weiss, a nationally acclaimed expert in the treatment of sex, infidelity, and intimacy issues, has spent over 25 years helping couples find peace and healing. In "Out of the Doghouse" he shares his expertise, illuminating the concrete steps men can take to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and save their primary relationship. He also gives direction to women on how to know when it is okay to move beyond fear, suspicion, and remorse to a place of hope and relationship renewal.
  • “I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression” by Terry Real - Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children. This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness” that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. Don't call it love; Recovery from Sexual Addiction- Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.
  • Recovery Zone Volume 1 by Patrick Carnes - Recovery Zone, Volume One picks up where Facing the Shadow leaves off, guiding readers to begin working tasks eight through thirteen of Dr. Patrick Carnes' innovative thirty-task model. This book helps readers understand that true recovery is achieved by learning to cope with difficult situations and emotions.
  • Recovery Zone Volume 2 by Patrick Carnes - World renowned addiction expert, Dr. Patrick Carnes, releases his second volume of The Recovery Zone series, an innovative and practical guide focused on tasks and resiliency skills to restore happiness, harmony, and lifestyle balance for those recovering from all types of addictions. Recovery Zone Volume 2 provides real answers about how to stay in the zone when traumatic events, toxic stress, and easy access to escape surrounds you. The goal must be an “Ultimate to do List” so you do not miss out on the life you want and feel a genuine call to do.
  • The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes - Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds--chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power. In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.
  • The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love by Pia Mellody - In her first book in over 10 years, Pia Mellody—author of the groundbreaking bestsellers Facing Codependence and Facing Love Addiction—shares her profound wisdom on what it takes to sustain true intimacy and trusting love in our most vital relationships. Drawing on more than 20 years' experience as a counsellor at the renowned Meadows Treatment Centre in Arizona, Mellody now shares what she has learned about why intimate relationships falter—and what makes them work. Using the most up–to–date research and real–life examples, including her own compelling personal journey, Mellody provides readers with profoundly insightful and practical ground rules for relationships that achieve and maintain joyous intimacy.
  • Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way you Love by Pia Mellody - Pia Mellody unravels the intricate dynamics of unhealthy love relationships and shows us how to let go of toxic love. Through twelve-step work, exercises, and journal-keeping, Facing Love Addiction compassionately and realistically outlines the recovery process for Love Addicts, and Mellody’s fresh perspective and clear methods work to comfort and motivate all those looking to establish and maintain healthy, happy relationships. 
  • Naked in Public: A Memoir of Recovery from Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities by Staci Sprout - In this intensely personal account, Staci Sprout traces her journey from the painful world of sexual intrigue and addiction into a life of healing and purpose. She was an honors student and cheerleader, and later a gifted young social worker. But her life had a dark twist that even her closest friends didn’t suspect. Childhood sexual abuse and exposure to pornography had ignited a drive to be sexual that eventually threatened to unravel her sanity and her life. Desperate for relief, she tried psychotherapy, hypnotism, bodywork, and traditional and pagan spirituality. Nothing helped until a near-death experience became a turning point and she found her way into the rooms of 12-Step recovery for sex addiction. With sensitivity and compelling detail, Sprout writes as a compassionate insider about a world most have never seen: intimate gatherings of men and a few women determined to heal from the sickness that was ruining their lives. Eventually free of compulsive sexual behavior, Sprout concentrates on making things right with those she’s harmed, and on discovering what healthy romance and sexuality might look like. What she eventually finds is beyond her wildest dreams. This book is for all those who wonder if their story will ever have a happy ending.
  • Getting Off: One Woman’s Journey through Sex and Porn Addiction - A courageous account of one woman’s unflinching and ultimately hopeful journey through sex and porn addiction. A fixation on porn and orgasm, strings of failed relationships and serial hook-ups with strangers, inevitable blackouts to blunt the shame – these are not things we often hear women share publicly, and not with the candor, eloquence and introspection Erica Garza brings to Getting Off.
  • Lesbian Love Addiction: Understanding the Urge to Merge and How to Heal When Things go Wrong by Lauren D. Costine - Lauren D. Costine offers insight for lesbians, bisexual women in relationships with women, queer women, and more specifically, any woman who loves women, as well as their family and friends, and health care professionals, into the psychology of lesbian love addiction. It will give those who struggle with and suffer from love addiction ways to understand, cope, and heal from this debilitating addiction.
  • Courageous Love: A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal by Stefanie Carnes - Leading marriage expert Dr. Stefanie Carnes explains her time-tested strategy to help couples conquer fear and restore their trust, intimacy and connection following a betrayal. There is nothing that can rupture the loving connection between a couple like betrayal. Courageous Love provides a step-by-step guide for repairing your relationship, whether it is damaged by infidelity, pornography, or compulsive and addictive sexual behavior. Dr. Carnes teaches couples how to respond to one another with compassion and empathy and how to hold onto hope for their relationship.
  • Sex, God, & the Chaos of Betrayal: The Couples' Road Map of Hope & Healing - Recovery from Infidelity, Affairs, Pornography & Sexual Addiction by Roane Hunter, Eva Hunter. - Every person today knows someone who has been impacted by the devastating effects of sexual brokenness in one of its various manifestations - porn addiction, affairs, sexual compulsivity and sex addiction. The individuals and couples who have been affected by sexual brokenness in the form of sexual betrayal universally report that it is one of the most emotionally gut-wrenching experiences anyone can endure. They will often describe it as feeling “worse than death,” and many say they would rather die. Roane and Eva Hunter offer a raw and transparent account of the difficult path they have traveled together in dealing with sexual addiction. The result is their ability to offer a comprehensive road map for recovery. 
  • Lust Anger Love by Maureen Canning - Sexual addiction is a problem that affects millions of people. Maureen Canning, LMFT, who has extensive experience treating sex addicts, explains its roots and how those afflicted can recover. This book also explains the poisonous childhood seeds that lead to public scandals like the revelations involving former congressman Mark Foley. Canning shows how compulsions are the product of early childhood abuse and how patterns, from the most violent to the most commonplace, develop. She explains that the overriding emotion sexually addicted people feel towards the partners with whom they seek intimacy is anger turned into sexuality, or "sexualized anger.”
  • A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts” - By Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D, Mary E. Meyer, Ph.D., LMFT, Culle L. Vande Garde, LCSW, Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D - A groundbreaking book detailing the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up with a sexually addicted parent and offering a path to unburden their shameful legacy and embrace sexuality and intimacy without the intrusion or constraints from the past.
  • Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous - The basic text describing how this Twelve Step fellowship interprets AA's program to give support to recovering sex addicts. Includes many personal stories.
  • Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal by Dan Drake , Janice Caudill - Have your secret sexual behaviors recently been discovered? Are you stuck in knowing what to share, how much to share, and how to not traumatize your partner with too many gory details about your past? Has your therapist asked you to do a "Formal Disclosure" but you have no idea how to do that? Do you want to begin a life of honesty, integrity, and transparency? IF ANY OF THOSE QUESTIONS APPLY, THIS WORKBOOK IS FOR YOU. This guide walks you through a comprehensive approach to providing a full disclosure of your sexual past to your partner. We help you break down the entire process, offering you a step-by-step approach to sharing your past and restoring a foundation of truth in your relationship. 
  • Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal - Volume Two for Partners: Preparing for Disclosure on Your Terms by Janice Caudill, Dan Drake- Have you discovered sexual betrayal? Are you unable to heal your heart and relationship from betrayal trauma without knowing the full truth? Have you determined that you need a professionally-guided disclosure but are unsure how to prepare so your needs are addressed? If any of those questions apply, this workbook series is for you. Volume Two for Partners assists you in preparing for a disclosure on your own terms, by defining your needs and how to get them fulfilled, your boundaries and how to stand firm in them, and your personal healing by how you prepare yourself. This step-by-step guide not only helps you survive the painful experience of coming into full truth, but also supports you to grow stronger along the way. Used in companion with your spouse’s version, Full Disclosure: How to Share Truth After Sexual Betrayal, these parallel workbooks guide each of you through a therapeutic disclosure with a common understanding, common language, and a common goal of restoring the foundation of truth in your relationship.
  • Women, Sex, and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power by Charlotte S. Kasl - In our society, sex can easily become the price many women pay for love and the illusion of security. A woman who seeks a sense of personal power and an escape from pain may use sex and romance as a way to feel in control, just as an alcoholic uses alcohol; but sex never satisfies her longing for love and self-worth. In this wise and compassionate book, Charlotte Kasl shows women how they can learn to experience their sexuality as a source for love and positive power and sex as an expression that honors the soul as well as the body.
  •  No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction - by Marnie C. Ferree -  In this book Marnie C. Ferree offers a unique resource for women struggling with sexual addiction. Taking her book's title from the parable where Jesus extends grace to the woman caught in adultery, Ferree bravely shares her own story of sexual addiction, recalling her years of shame from living a double life and the moment when she ultimately had to tell the truth. But more than just offering her story as a hopeful example of God's transforming power, Ferree distills her clinical expertise on female sexual addiction accessibly and gently, providing a much-needed resource for women struggling with any degree of relational or sexual addiction. 
  • A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery by Patrick J Carnes Ph.D - It was out of his reverence and respect for the wisdom and therapeutic value of the Twelve Steps that Carnes wrote A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps, now a recovery classic and self-help staple for anyone looking for guidance for life's hardest challenges.
  • Hope And Recovery The Workbook by Anonymous - This workbook guides readers through the life-transforming move from self-defeating and destructive sexual behavior to healthy, affirming, sexuality. A remarkable work, Hope and Recovery guides and supports the life-transforming move from self-defeating and destructive sexual behavior to healthy, affirming sexuality. This widely acclaimed contribution to addiction literature applies the Twelve Step Program of Alcoholics Anonymous to the complex problem of sex addiction.
  • Disclosing Secrets: An Addict's Guide for When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal - by M Deborah Corley Ph.D. , Jennifer P Schneider M.D. - Based on the latest research of the impact of disclosure, this updated and rewritten edition of Disclosing Secrets presents the best approach for addressing one of the most difficult challenges any sex addict must face – sharing information about his or her sex addiction. 
  • Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age by Robert Weiss, Jennifer P. Schneider. - Today, all forms of sex addiction are technology driven—from porn websites to webcams to casual sex hook-up apps found on smartphones. Sex addicts organize their lives around the pursuit of sexual activity with self or others, spending inordinate amounts of time viewing and masturbating to porn or planning, pursuing, and engaging in sex acts. At the same time, they neglect important relationships, work, and personal responsibilities. Overwhelming feelings of guilt, shame, and remorse invade when the acting out ends. While it's complicated, recovery is possible. Always Turned On shows readers how to turn those temptations off while providing practical long-term solutions for recovery.
  • Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss PhD LCSW - Sex Addiction 101 covers everything from what sexual addiction is and how it can best be treated, to how it affects various subgroups of the population such as women, gays, and teenagers. The book also provides sex addicts with strategies to protect themselves from the online sexual onslaught. Sex Addiction 101 is intended to enlighten the clinical population as well as actual sex addicts and their loved ones.
  • The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography by Wendy Maltz , Larry Maltz. - In this highly acclaimed recovery guide, renowned sex and relationship therapists Wendy and Larry Maltz shed new light on the compelling nature and destructive power of today’s instantly available pornography. Weaving together poignant real-life stories with innovative exercises, checklists, and expert advice, this groundbreaking resource provides a comprehensive program for understanding and healing porn addiction and other serious consequences of porn use. 
  • Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by William M. Struthers - In this book neuroscientist and researcher William Struthers explains how pornography affects the male brain and what we can do about it. Because we are embodied beings, viewing pornography changes how the brain works, how we form memories and make attachments. By better understanding the biological realities of our sexual development, we can cultivate healthier sexual perspectives and interpersonal relationships. Struthers exposes false assumptions and casts a vision for a redeemed masculinity, showing how our sexual longings can actually propel us toward sanctification and holiness in our bodies. With insights for both married and single men alike, this book offers hope for freedom from pornography.
  • Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity by Mark Chamberlain - Love You, Hate the Porn shows couples how to identify and address vulnerabilities in their relationship. Offers healing advice for spouses. Provides help for the struggling partner to avoid relapse. Focuses on how to make the marriage relationship stronger than it was before.
  • Stop Sex Addiction: Real Hope, True Freedom for Sex Addicts and Partners by Milton S Magness - Compulsive sexual behavior is often difficult to face. Sex addiction results in countless negative consequences and hurts many people. Relationships, marriages, families, and careers are destroyed. Anyone afflicted with sex addiction, as well as the people who love them, can find help within this book.
  • In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior by Patrick J Carnes Ph.D - Compulsive online sexual behavior is a real and growing problem. Yet the situation is not without hope. For those who are seeing signs of significant online problems in themselves or a loved one, this updated second edition of In the Shadows of the Net provides answers, understanding, and tools for recovery. With the latest statistics, discussion of recent technologies and devices, and new thinking on developing a healthy relationship with the Internet and avoiding relapse, this book offers authoritative, professional advice for achieving lasting, healthy change and healing.
  • How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self  by Nicole LePera - In How to Do the Work, she offers both a manifesto for Self Healing as well as an essential guide to creating a more vibrant, authentic, and joyful life. Drawing on the latest research from a diversity of scientific fields and healing modalities, Dr. LePera helps us recognize how adverse experiences and trauma in childhood live with us, resulting in whole body dysfunction—activating harmful stress responses that keep us stuck engaging in patterns of codependency, emotional immaturity, and trauma bonds. Unless addressed, these self-sabotaging behaviors can quickly become cyclical, leaving people feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and unwell. In How to Do the Work, Dr. LePera offers readers the support and tools that will allow them to break free from destructive behaviors to reclaim and recreate their lives. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, this is a celebration of empowerment that will forever change the way we approach mental wellness and self-care.
  • Post-Romantic Stress Disorder: What to Do When the Honeymoon Is Over by John Bradshaw - In Post-Romantic Stress Disorder (PRSD), Bradshaw gives readers a clear explanation of the difference between falling in love, lust, and true love. Based on his research, PRSD is a deeply serious psychological disorder and the cause of 40% of all divorces –divorces that could have been prevented. Every day people throw away perfectly good relationships because they just don't know how to navigate the tides, but if they could learn and understand the concepts Bradshaw presents in this book, the portrait of the family unit could have a whole new landscape.
  • The White Book-Sexaholics Anonymous - The book Sexaholics Anonymous is the basic text for the Twelve-Step fellowship of Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). SA members call it the White Book due to its plain white cover. It offers a solution to the problems of lust, sex, and pornography addiction.
  • The Green Book-Sex Addicts Anonymous - Members of SAA affectionately refer to the book "Sex Addicts Anonymous" as the "Green Book". The Green Book is the basic text of the fellowship of Sex Addicts Anonymous. It has helped large numbers of sex addicts, young and old, recover. The first hundred pages of Sex Addicts Anonymous describe the 12 Step programme of recovery, and the remainder of the book contains personal stories of recovery from sexual addiction.
  • Gifts of Recovery - Daily Meditations for Men and Women in Recovery from Sex Addiction by Timothy D Stein LMFT, CSAT-S, CCPS - Daily readings for individuals in recovery from sex & porn addiction. These meditations provide 12-Step insights, sobriety tools and tips, lessons for successful recovery, and partner sensitivity. They combine the clinical guidance of a seasoned therapist with the wisdom received by walking a recovery path.
  • Untangling the Web: Sex, Porn, and Fantasy Obsession in the Internet Age by Robert Weiss, Jennifer P. Schneider - With personal stories from addicts and their significant others, this updated essential resource offers realistic healing strategies for anyone experiencing the devastating impact of Internet pornography and sex addiction on intimacy, relationships, career, health, and self-respect.
  • Intimacy Anorexia by Doug Weiss - Feeling lonely, disconnected, or unloved in your marriage because your partner has stopped being intimate with you? Has your dream of a sacred union turned out to be married and alone? Intimacy Anorexia, the active withholding of emotional, spiritual and sexual intimacy, maybe the underlying pattern in your marriage. However, you can have hope again. Once Intimacy Anorexia is identified, it can be treated. 
  • Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men by Rob Weiss - Finally, there is a resource that can help gay men determine if they are indeed a sex addict and whether or not they are willing to explore behavior change because of their sexual behavior.
  • "Lust, Men and Meth: A Gay Man's Guide to Sex and Recovery” by David Fawcett PhD, LCSW -  Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man's Guide to Sex and Recovery provides insight for gay men struggling with the issues of sex and recovery, and for the professionals who work with them. The reader is equipped not only with essential information on the problems of drugs and sexuality, but also with solutions in the form of tools and resources that will support him along his path.
  • Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Dr. Eddie Capparucci - If you have been battling a sex/porn addiction, you understand how frustrating it can be to fail time and time again. This book provides a new and proven treatment method that will empower you to take control and finally manage your addiction. The key is understanding the road to recovery from a sex/porn addiction goes through your childhood. Why? Because it’s your inner child who is running the show.
  • The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous by Overeaters Anonymous  - Provides a detailed explanation of the principles of Overeaters Anonymous and serves as a guide for those of us living the programme of OA who want to spread the message of recovery to others.
  • Always Aware: Recovery & Healing from Alcohol & Drugs by James S. Cusack - If you have a loved one or friend caught-up in the vortex of addiction or chemical dependency, then the Cusack formula presented here is a place to start understanding the disease, and a beginning in understanding how the disease affects you. The words in this book help comfort you from the fear that you are the only one with a tremendous weight on your shoulders—you are not alone. Through the 12-Step program that you will read about, recovery and healing begin with love and caring. Family love and caring form the essence of a proven treatment approach that can only be learned by doing. 
  • TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction by Michael Barta Ph.D, LPC, CSAT-S - Sexual addiction treatment has long focused on managing the symptoms of addiction with abstinence—a difficult challenge in a world where limitless pornographic gratification is never more than a mouse click away. A new recovery method is needed: one capable of identifying and treating the core cause of addictive behavior. TINSA® is such a program. Created by a preeminent Colorado master clinician, TINSA®, or Trauma Induced Sexual Addiction, explores the effects of adverse developmental experiences on a young brain and nervous system and illustrates how the damage caused by those experiences encourages addictive behavior. Realizing how many sex addicts suffer from abandonment, neglect, and other childhood trauma led TINSA® creator Michael Barta, PhD, LPC, CSAT, to examine how emotional wounding leads to the need to self-regulate the release of the pleasure hormone dopamine through sexual stimuli. As increasing levels of dopamine are required over time to reach the same “high,” by adulthood, self-regulation can produce compulsive, damaging sexual behavior.

Additional Readings To Explore

Spirituality/Self-Growth


  • The Pocket by Pema Chodron, Eden Steinberg - Pema Chödrön, beloved Buddhist nun and best-selling author, offers this treasury of 108 short selections from her more than four decades of study and writings. Here she presents teachings on breaking free of destructive patterns; developing patience, kindness, and joy amid our everyday struggles; becoming fearless; and unlocking our natural warmth, intelligence, and goodness. 
  • Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating your Sexual Health Plan by Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D. - Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating Your Sexual Health Plan, by Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., helps you uncover and embrace your unique, optimal sexuality. Carefully researched, designed, and clinically tested, the Workbook gives you a powerful new program to achieve your authentic sexual expression.
  • Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief by Claire Bidwell Smith, LCPC. - Smith breaks down the physiology of anxiety, giving you a concrete foundation of understanding in order to help you heal. Starting with the basics of What Is Anxiety? and What Is Grief? and moving to concrete approaches such as Making Amends, Taking Charge, and Retraining Your Brain, Anxiety takes a big step beyond Elisabeth Ross's widely accepted five stages to unpack everything from our age-old fears about mortality to the bare vulnerability a loss can make us feel.
  • Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships by Kelly McDaniel. - Ready to Heal provides an opportunity for women to break free from painful addictive relationships. Kelly McDaniel provides the reader with the tools they will need to move along the path of living a life where intimacy is possible. Readers have an opportunity to begin to "connect the dots" in their own relationship patterns by following the stories of four brave women.
  • The Anger Management Workbook for Women: A 5-Step Guide to Managing Your Emotions and Breaking the Cycle of Anger by Julie Catalano - Understand, work through, and take control of your anger with this practical 5-step strategy. When women choose to address their anger management problems, they often do so with feelings of shame or regret―but beginning to work on the issue is a brave first step. The Anger Management Workbook for Women provides an actionable plan that will help you understand the source of your anger, release the pervasive guilt that often results from negative behaviors, and learn strategies for managing anger now and in the future.
  • Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions by Aaron Karmin - Be the bigger man with straightforward strategies for managing your anger. Are you ready to take control of your anger? Clinical Therapist Aaron Karmin teaches you the skills to manage your anger without aggression and build up your self-confidence, self-control, and self-respect.The Anger Management Workbook for Men goes beyond why men get angry and helps you get to the root of your anger.
  • “Don't Sweat the Small Stuff (and it's all small stuff)" by Richard Carlson. - Put challenges in perspective, reduce stress and anxiety through small daily changes, and find the path to achieving your goals with this groundbreaking inspirational guide—a self-help classic. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...and It's All Small Stuff is a book that tells you how to keep from letting the little things in life drive you crazy. In thoughtful and insightful language, author Richard Carlson reveals ways to calm down in the midst of your incredibly hurried, stress-filled life.
  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine - Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
  • Attachment Theory Workbook by Annie Chen - Build stronger relationships with strategies grounded in attachment theory. Attachment theory explores the different ways we develop connections with others. If you’re searching for a way to create stronger, healthier, and more authentic relationships with the people you love, The Attachment Theory Workbook can help. It’s your guide to understanding your own attachment style and exploring actionable exercises to improve honesty, intimacy, and communication with your partner, family, or close friends.
  • Unstuck: Move from Powerless to Empowered in Your Relationships by Charlene Benson - Are You Stuck in a Relationship Ditch? Finding yourself in in conflict in a relationship—for the first or umpteenth time—leads to feeling frustrated and powerless, like you’re stuck in a ditch. Relationship coach Charlene Benson shows you how to experience change and gain momentum by helping you:  Understand the hidden reasons that drive your behaviors ; Ditch old patterns and embrace a healthier way of loving and experiencing love ; Discover powerful pathways to help you avoid giving up in defeat or getting stuck at an impasse ; Choose effective responses over toxic reactions.
  • How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan Yerkovich, Kay Yerkovich. - Relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich explain why the ways you and your spouse relate to each other go back to before you even met. Drawing on the powerful tool of attachment theory, Milan and Kay explore how your childhood created an “intimacy imprint” that affects your marriage today. 
  • How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self  by Nicole LePera - In How to Do the Work, she offers both a manifesto for Self Healing as well as an essential guide to creating a more vibrant, authentic, and joyful life. Drawing on the latest research from a diversity of scientific fields and healing modalities, Dr. LePera helps us recognize how adverse experiences and trauma in childhood live with us, resulting in whole body dysfunction—activating harmful stress responses that keep us stuck engaging in patterns of codependency, emotional immaturity, and trauma bonds. Unless addressed, these self-sabotaging behaviors can quickly become cyclical, leaving people feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and unwell. In How to Do the Work, Dr. LePera offers readers the support and tools that will allow them to break free from destructive behaviors to reclaim and recreate their lives. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, this is a celebration of empowerment that will forever change the way we approach mental wellness and self-care.
  • Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN by Tara Brach - In this heartfelt and deeply practical book, she offers an antidote: an easy-to-learn four-step meditation that quickly loosens the grip of difficult emotions and limiting beliefs. Each step in the meditation practice (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) is brought to life by memorable stories shared by Tara and her students as they deal with feelings of overwhelm, loss, and self-aversion, with painful relationships, and past trauma--and as they discover step-by-step the sources of love, forgiveness, compassion, and deep wisdom alive within all of us.
  • Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha by Tara Brach - Radical Acceptance offers a path to freedom, including the day-to-day practical guidance developed over Dr. Brach’s twenty years of work with therapy clients and Buddhist students.
  • Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel - Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
  • Loving Kindness by Sharon Salzberg - In this inspiring book, Sharon Salzberg, one of America's leading spiritual teachers, shows us how the Buddhist path of lovingkindness can help us discover the radiant, joyful heart within each of us. 
  • A Path With Heart by Jack Kornfeld - A Path with Heart is filled with practical techniques, guided meditations, stories, koans, and other gems of wisdom that can help ease your journey through the world. 
  • Daring Greatly by Brene Brown - From thought leader Brené Brown, a transformative new vision for the way we lead, love, work, parent, and educate that teaches us the power of vulnerability. Daring Greatly is not about winning or losing. It’s about courage. In a world where “never enough” dominates and feeling afraid has become second nature, vulnerability is subversive. 
  • Peace in Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh - Lucidly and beautifully written, PEACE IS EVERY STEP contains commentaries and meditations, personal anecdotes and stories from Nhat Hanh's experiences as a peace activist, teacher, and community leader.
  • Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Nhat Hanh - In this beautiful and lucid guide, Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh offers gentle anecdotes and practical exercise as a means of learning the skills of mindfulness--being awake and fully aware. From washing the dishes to answering the phone to peeling an orange, he reminds us that each moment holds within it an opportunity to work toward greater self-understanding and peacefulness.
  • Twelve Steps to Compassion by Karen Armstrong - Karen Armstrong believes that while compassion is intrinsic in all human beings, each of us needs to work diligently to cultivate and expand our capacity for compassion. Here, in this straightforward, thoughtful, and thought-provoking book, she sets out a program that can lead us toward a more compassionate life.
  • A Course in Miracles by Helen Schucman - A Course In Miracles (ACIM) is a unique spiritual self-study program designed to awaken us to the truth of our oneness with God and Love.
  • A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson - Marianne Williamson shares her reflections on A Course in Miracles and her insights on the application of love in the search for inner peace. Williamson reveals how we each can become a miracle worker by accepting God and by the expression of love in our daily lives. Whether psychic pain is in the area of relationships, career, or health, she shows us how love is a potent force, the key to inner peace, and how by practicing love we can make our own lives more fulfilling while creating a more peaceful and loving world for our children.
  • The Seeker’s Guide by Elizabeth Lesser - In The Seeker's Guide, she synthesizes the lessons learned from an immersion into the world's wisdom traditions and intertwines them with illuminating stories from her daily life. Recounting her own trials and errors and offering meditative exercises, she shows the reader how to create a personal practice, gauge one's progress, and choose effective spiritual teachers and habits. 
  • Dance of Anger by Elizabeth Lesser - In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change. For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. 
  • *A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle - In A New Earth, Tolle expands on these powerful ideas to show how transcending our ego-based state of consciousness is not only essential to personal happiness, but also the key to ending conflict and suffering throughout the world. Tolle describes how our attachment to the ego creates the dysfunction that leads to anger, jealousy, and unhappiness, and shows readers how to awaken to a new state of consciousness and follow the path to a truly fulfilling existence.
  • *The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle - Tolle introduces readers to enlightenment and its natural enemy, the mind. He awakens readers to their role as a creator of pain and shows them how to have a pain-free identity by living fully in the present. The journey is thrilling, and along the way, the author shows how to connect to the indestructible essence of our Being, "the eternal, ever-present One Life beyond the myriad forms of life that are subject to birth and death."
  • Wherever You Go There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn - Wherever You Go, There You Are, Jon Kabat-Zinn maps out a simple path for cultivating mindfulness in our lives, and awakening us to the unique beauty and possibilities of each present moment. He shows us how this simple meditation technique can enable us to be truly in touch with where we already are, so that we can be fully aware at all times. 
  • Coming to Our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World Through Mindfulness by Jon Kabat-Zinn - Now, with Coming to Our Senses, he provides the definitive book for our time on the connection between mindfulness and our physical and spiritual wellbeing. With scientific rigor, poetic deftness, and compelling personal stories, Jon Kabat-Zinn examines the mysteries and marvels of our minds and bodies, describing simple, intuitive ways in which we can come to a deeper understanding, through our senses, of our beauty, our genius, and our life path in a complicated, fear-driven, and rapidly changing world.
  • The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav - Explains how we create our experiences with the strength of our own thoughts and traces the path of the soul's evolution in a description of the human ability to transform life experiences.
  • The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A Singer - What would it be like to free yourself from limitations and soar beyond your boundaries? What can you do each day to discover inner peace and serenity? The Untethered Soul offers simple yet profound answers to these questions.
  • The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra - Based on natural laws that govern all of creation, this book shatters the myth that success is the result of hard work, exacting plans, or driving ambition. Instead, Deepak Chopra offers a life-altering perspective on the attainment of success: When we understand our true nature and learn to live in harmony with natural law, a sense of well-being, good health, fulfilling relationships, and material abundance spring forth easily and effortlessly.
  • The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Huff - The how of Pooh? The Tao of who? The Tao of Pooh?! In which it is revealed that one of the world’s great Taoist masters isn’t Chinese—or a venerable philosopher—but is in fact none other than that effortlessly calm, still, reflective bear: A. A. Milne’s Winnie-the-Pooh! While Eeyore frets, and Piglet hesitates, and Rabbit calculates, and Owl pontificates, Pooh just is.
  • The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo - His spiritual daybook is a summons to reclaim aliveness, liberate the self, take each day one at a time, and savor the beauty offered by life's unfolding. Reading his poetic prose is like being given second sight, exposing the reader to life's multiple dimensions, each one drawn with awe and affection.
  • The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho - Paulo Coelho's masterpiece tells the magical story of Santiago, an Andalusian shepherd boy who yearns to travel in search of a worldly treasure as extravagant as any ever found. The story of the treasures Santiago finds along the way teaches us, as only a few stories can, about the essential wisdom of listening to our hearts, learning to read the omens strewn along life's path, and, above all, following our dreams.
  • The Road Less Travelled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck - Drawing on the experiences of his career as a psychiatrist, Scott Peck combines scientific and spiritual views to guide us through the difficult, painful times in life by showing us how to confront our problems through the key principles of discipline, love and grace.
  • Beyond Fear by Don Miguel Ruiz - Providing instruction in the basic elements of the Toltec spiritual practice, this collection of ceremonies, wisdom, and prophecies empowers readers to shed their fears, judgments, and guilt—an essential step before practicing the Four Agreements. 
  • The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.
  • Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz - In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships.
  • Spirituality of Imperfection by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham - The Spirituality Of Imperfection brings  together stories from many spiritual and philosophical paths, weaving past traditions into a  spirituality and a new way of thinking and living that works today. It speaks so anyone who yearns to find meaning within suffering. Beyond theory and technique, inside this remarkable book you will find a new way of thinking, a way of living that enables a truly human existence.
  • Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein - A heart-wrenching but deeply funny and ultimately uplifting story of family, love, loyalty, and hope, The Art of Racing in the Rain is a beautifully crafted and captivating look at the wonders and absurdities of human life…as only a dog could tell it.
  • Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach - Simple Abundance is a book of evocative essays - one for every day of the year - for women who wish to live by their own lights. Simple Abundance shows you how your daily life can be an expression of your authentic self ... as you choose the tastiest vegetables from your garden, search for treasures at flea markets, establish a sacred space in your home for meditation, and follow the rhythm of the seasons and the year.
  • The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche - The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, written by Sogyal Rinpoche, is the ultimate introduction to Tibetan Buddhist wisdom. An enlightening, inspiring, and comforting manual for life and death .
  • Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl - Viktor Frankl’s riveting account of his time in the Nazi concentration camps, and his insightful exploration of the human will to find meaning in spite of the worst adversity, has offered solace and guidance to generations of readers since it was first published in 1946. 
  • Talking To Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell - Talking to Strangers is a classically Gladwellian intellectual adventure, a challenging and controversial excursion through history, psychology, and scandals taken straight from the news. He revisits the deceptions of Bernie Madoff, the trial of Amanda Knox, the suicide of Sylvia Plath, the Jerry Sandusky pedophilia scandal at Penn State University, and the death of Sandra Bland—throwing our understanding of these and other stories into doubt.
  • Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell - Malcolm Gladwell takes us on an intellectual journey through the world of "outliers"--the best and the brightest, the most famous and the most successful. He asks the question: what makes high-achievers different?
  • Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer - In a world of endless small talk, constant traffic jams, and overburdened schedules, "The Invitation" opens the door to a new way of life -- a way of intimacy, honesty, and peace with ourselves, others, and the world around us. Oriah invites us to embrace the varieties of human experience, from desire and commitment to sorrow and betrayal, and to open ourselves to all that is possible. 
  • Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart by Gordon Livingston - After service in Vietnam, as a surgeon for the 11th Armored Cavalry Regiment in 1968-69, at the height of the war, Dr. Gordon Livingston returned to the U.S. and began work as a psychiatrist. In that capacity, he has listened to people talk about their lives--what works, what doesn't, and the limitless ways (many of them self-inflicted) that people find to be unhappy. He is also a parent twice bereaved; in one thirteen-month period he lost his eldest son to suicide, his youngest to leukemia. Out of a lifetime of experience, Gordon Livingston has extracted thirty bedrock truths, including: We are what we do , Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least, The perfect is the enemy of the good, Only bad things happen quickly, Forgiveness is a form of letting go, but they are not the same thing, The statute of limitations has expired on most of our childhood traumas.
  • Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson, M.D. - A timeless business classic, Who Moved My Cheese? uses a simple parable to reveal profound truths about dealing with change so that you can enjoy less stress and more success in your work and in your life. It would be all so easy if you had a map to the Maze. If the same old routines worked. If they'd just stop moving "The Cheese.” But things keep changing...
  • Mindfulness Toolbox by Donald Altman - At last, an authoritative book filled with mindfulness tools that deliver an essential set of engaging, practical strategies along with key research and evidence-based information. The awareness boosting methods in this guidebook offer participants a means of reappraising and observing negative and anxious thoughts, habits, pain, and stress in fresh ways that produce new insight, positive change, and a sense of hope.
  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook by McKay, Wood, Brantley - The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook, a collaborative effort from three esteemed authors, offers straightforward, step-by-step exercises for learning these concepts and putting them to work for real and lasting change. Start by working on the introductory exercises and, after making progress, move on to the advanced-skills chapters. Whether you are a professional or a general reader, whether you use this book to support work done in therapy or as the basis for self-help, you'll benefit from this clear and practical guide to better managing your emotions.
  • Becoming Gay: The Journey to Self-Acceptance by Richard Isay - The importance of living authentically—accepting one’s homosexuality and embracing a positive gay identity—is at the heart of Dr. Richard Isay’s powerful work on the psychological development of gay men. In the candid language of personal case histories, including his own, Isay shows how disguising one’s sexual identity can induce anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. He looks at the dilemma of gay men who are closeting in heterosexual marriages as well as at the specific concerns of adolescents, older men, and those confronted with HIV or AIDS. Isay exposes the tenacity with which psychoanalysis has clung to outdated views of homosexuality. 
  • 10 Smart Things Gay Men can do to Improve Their Lives by Joe Kort - Would the small gay boy you once were look up to the gay man you’ve become?This is the question Dr. Joe Kort explores in 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives (completely revised and updated edition) as he guides readers through the complex journey of becoming a fully self-actualized gay man. Learn the five biggest mistakes gay men make when seeking a relationship. 
  • On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous: A Novel by Ocean Vuong - Poet Ocean Vuong’s debut novel is a shattering portrait of a family, a first love, and the redemptive power of storytelling. On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous is a letter from a son to a mother who cannot read. Written when the speaker, Little Dog, is in his late twenties, the letter unearths a family’s history that began before he was born — a history whose epicenter is rooted in Vietnam — and serves as a doorway into parts of his life his mother has never known, all of it leading to an unforgettable revelation. 
  • The Disease to Please by Harriet B. Braiker, Ph. D - People pleasers are not just nice people who go overboard trying to make everyone happy. Those who suffer from the Disease to Please are people who say "Yes" when they really want to say "No." For them, the uncontrollable need for the elusive approval of others is an addiction. Their debilitating fears of anger and confrontation force them to use "niceness" and "people-pleasing" as self-defense camouflage. Featured on NBC's "Today," The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that "people pleasing" is a benign problem. Best-selling author and frequent "Oprah" guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers clear, positive, practical, and easily do-able steps toward recovery.
  • My Perfectly  Unperfect Life: 127 Exercises for Self-Acceptance by Irene Smit - Charmingly illustrated and filled with activities and exercises, My Perfectly Imperfect Life inspires readers to let go of the pressure to be perfect and to celebrate quirks, slipups and imperfections rather than judge them.
  • The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Deborah Ford - Through the stories and exercises in The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, Debbie Ford shows us not only how to recognize our hidden emotions, but also how to find the gifts they offer us. 
  • The Art of Extreme Self-Care by Cheryl Richardson - Her practical, action-oriented program outlines 12 strategies to transform your life one month at a time, each one challenging you to alter one behavior that's blocking your path. Chapters include "End the Legacy of Deprivation," "Find Your Passion," "The Absolute No List," and "Does That Anger Taste Good?" (Hint: it really doesn’t.)
  • How to Be Nice to Yourself: The Everyday Guide to Self-Compassion: Effective Strategies to Increase Self-Love and Acceptance by Laura Silberstein-Tirch PsyD - Today’s the day to start loving yourself. How to Be Nice to Yourself makes it simple to start practicing self compassion with a wide variety of techniques and strategies that anyone can learn. Filled with easy-to-use advice drawn from a variety of sources―including meditation, mindfulness, and acceptance and commitment therapy―this book will help you find the right way to start feeling good about yourself.
  • Queer Blues: The Lesbian and Gay Guide to Overcoming Depression by Kimeron N. Hardin - Queer Blues is the only guide to focus on the triggers of depression specific to the gay and lesbian community and to offer concrete strategies to overcome them. The authors explain the many forms of depression and explore its unique impact on lesbians and gay men. If you're a lesbian or a gay man struggling with depression, this book offers you real tools for real change. 
  • The Illustrated Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living by Russ Harris - The practice of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is made even more accessible in this fun, easy-to-understand, and illustrated companion to The Happiness Trap. There’s this idea going around that we’re always supposed to be happy—and it’s making us miserable. The good news is, if you can learn to let go of that impossible expectation, your life will be a whole lot happier. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a simple, self-administered therapy that uses mindfulness to enable you to do just that. 
  • You, Happier: The 7 Neuroscience Secrets of Feeling Good Based on Your Brain Type by Daniel G. Amen - After studying more than 200,000 brain scans of people from 155 countries, Dr. Amen has discovered five primary brain types and seven neuroscience secrets that influence happiness. In You, Happier, he explains them and offers practical, science-based strategies for optimizing your happiness. Dr. Amen will teach you how t0 discover your brain type based on your personality and create happiness strategies best suited to you; improve your overall brain health to consistently enhance your mood; protect your happiness by distancing yourself from the “noise” in your head; and make seven simple decisions and ask seven daily questions to enhance your happiness.
  • Unfuck Your Brain: Using Science to Get Over Anxiety, Depression, Anger, Freakouts, and Triggers by Dr. Faith G. Harper - Our brains are doing our best to help us out, but they can be real assholes sometimes. Sometimes it seems like your own brain is out to get you—melting down in the middle of the grocery store, picking fights with your date, getting you addicted to something, or shutting down completely at the worst possible moments. You already told your brain firmly that it isn't good to do these things. But your brain has a mind of its own. That's where this book comes in. With humor, patience, and lots of swearing, Dr. Faith shows you the science behind what's going on in your skull and talks you through the process of retraining your brain to respond appropriately to the non-emergencies of everyday life. 
  • Don’t Believe Everything you Think: Why Your Thinking is the Beginning & End of Suffering by Joseph Nguyen - Learn how to overcome anxiety, self-doubt & self-sabotage without needing to rely on motivation or willpower. In this book, you'll discover the root cause of all psychological and emotional suffering and how to achieve freedom of mind to effortlessly create the life you've always wanted to live. Although pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. This book offers a completely new paradigm and understanding of where our human experience comes from, allowing us to end our own suffering and create how we want to feel at any moment.
  • You’re Not Alone: The Only Books you’ll Ever Need to Overcome Anxiety and Depression by Zachary David Westerbeck - If you’re ready to overcome your anxiety and depression, this book is for you. Anxiety and depression can be hugely disruptive, especially for someone who has a lot on their plate, like school, an internship, a new job, or campus clubs. You might feel shame, guilt, and embarrassment about sharing what you’re going through with your friends and family. You wish these feelings would go away, but you have no idea where to even start to feel better.
  • Anxious for Nothing: Finding Calm in a Chaotic World by Max Lucado - Anxious for Nothing, from pastor and New York Times bestselling author Max Lucado, provides a practical and powerful roadmap for battling with and healing from anxiety. Combining hopeful scripture with timeless stories, Max will equip you with the tools you need to overcome your anxieties, no matter what you're facing.
  • Practices for Overcoming Anxiety by Boussaidane S., M.D. - HOW TO USE THIS BOOK: This book helps you adopt tips and strategies for better managing stress and anxiety. The first part will allow you to identify the triggers, symptoms and interpretations, in order to better understand and decipher your anxiety in order to cut its circle. The second part contains self-help strategies to act on your anxiety, such as changing the way of thinking, doing exercises, changing bad habits and living healthily. Each time a focused topic you will be working on. There you'll find explanations of why you should work on it, practical tips, and a place to interact, rate, and express yourself. Keep this book with you which could quickly become your best friend. Reuse it whenever necessary.
  • Get Out of Your Head: Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts by Jennie Allen - In Get Out of Your Head, Jennie inspires and equips us to transform our emotions, our outlook, and even our circumstances by taking control of our thoughts. Our enemy is determined to get in our heads to make us feel helpless, overwhelmed, and incapable of making a difference for the kingdom of God. But when we submit our minds to Christ, the promises and goodness of God flood our lives in remarkable ways.
  • Stop Overthinking: Evidence-Based Tips and Techniques to Conquer Negative Thoughts, Manage Anxiety, and Quickly Calm the Mind by Linda Hill - In the modern world, overthinking is the root cause of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, and depression. This overthinking guide will help you begin to recognize when you are overthinking, and your triggers for doing so. It will also give you a step-by-step guide on how to begin battling and changing those thought patterns for good. Now is the time to take action against overthinking, before it becomes a part of who you are. This book will provide you with the ability to understand your thought patterns and how to begin changing them.
  • Overcoming Anticipatory Anxiety by Sally M. Winston and Martin N. Seif - Do you automatically assume the worst-case-scenario when faced with difficulty? Do you stress about situations that haven’t happened yet, or find yourself anticipating disaster around every corner? Does the prospect of making a decision leave you feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed? From subtle avoidance behaviors to the most nightmarish terrors, anticipatory anxiety is the engine that drives it all. Understanding how this hidden enemy tricks you, and, most importantly, how to overcome it, will liberate you to live a more flexible and joyful life. In Overcoming Anticipatory Anxiety, two anxiety experts team up to teach you how to manage your overactive imagination, limit future-based thinking, face your fears, make decisions, and live with more freedom and joy. This must-have guide is grounded in the authors' innovative and easy-to-remember DANCE model:
  • How to Deal with How you Feel: Managing the Emotions That Make Life Unmanageable  by James Merritt -  In How to Deal with How You Feel, Dr. James Merritt will help you understand and apply the Bible’s often overlooked practical guidance for handling difficult emotions, including depression, jealousy, dissatisfaction, anxiety, rage, and loneliness. How to Deal with How You Feel is a powerful roadmap to emotional health that will provide you with simple strategies and effective tools to process even your most chaotic emotions in a spiritually beneficial way. As you read, you’ll discover how a deep-rooted faith will empower you to experience the richness of contentment, joy, and peace that transcends understanding.
  • The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear Response by Ellen Vora - In The Anatomy of Anxiety, holistic psychiatrist Dr. Ellen Vora offers nothing less than a paradigm shift in our understanding of anxiety and mental health, suggesting that anxiety is not simply a brain disorder but a whole-body condition. In her clinical work, Dr. Vora has found time and again that the symptoms of anxiety can often be traced to imbalances in the body. The emotional and physical discomfort we experience—sleeplessness, brain fog, stomach pain, jitters—is a result of the body’s stress response. This physiological state can be triggered by challenging experiences as well as seemingly innocuous factors, such as diet and use of technology.
  • The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time by Alex Korb PhD - Depression can feel like a downward spiral, pulling you into a vortex of sadness, fatigue, and apathy. In The Upward Spiral, neuroscientist Alex Korb demystifies the intricate brain processes that cause depression and offers a practical and effective approach to getting better. Based on the latest research in neuroscience, this book provides dozens of straightforward tips you can do every day to rewire your brain and create an upward spiral towards a happier, healthier life.
  • How Hard it Really Is: A Short, Honest Book about Depression by J.S. Park - How Hard It Really Is covers: * The science behind depression * The helpful (and unhelpful) dialogue around mental illness * The debate between seeing it as a choice or disease * Stories of survivors * My own attempt at suicide * A secret culture of suicide worship * An interview with a depressed doctor * The problem with finding a “cure”.
  • Everyday Positive Thinking by Louise Hay - Each day, randomly open this book to a couple of positive thoughts, and you’ll find that your outlook becomes a whole lot brighter! This is a wonderful compilation of quotes and affirmations from some esteemed Hay House authors.
  • The Little Zen Companion by David Schiller - With each page featuring a quote, phrase, story, koan, haiku, or poem, Zen Companion combines the feeling and format of a meditation book with 2,500 years of wisdom-from Lao-tzu and Groucho Marx, William Carlos Williams and The Little Prince, D. T. Suzuki and Walker Percy, the Buddha and the Bible, Einstein and Gertrude Stein. 
  • Staying on the Path by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer - The wit and wisdom of Dr. Wayne Dyer, the author of the international bestsellers Everyday Wisdom and 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace, is reflected in this extraordinary collection of inspirational quotes and observations.
  • A Turning Point: Images to Words by Victor Gagliardi - A collection of 70 photographs accompanied by brief philosophical writings about: The past, Happiness, Friendship, Love Relationships, God, Religion & Death, Work, Achievement, Travel & The World, Ways of Being, and the Future. A Turning Point blends aesthetics with philosophical wisdom and encouragement for the celebration of life. 
  • Offerings: Buddhist Wisdom for Every Day (Offers for Humanity) by Danielle Follmi and Olivier Follmi - More than 350 full-color photographs accompany a thought-provoking collection of wisdom, insights, knowledge, and spiritual advice from the masters of Tibetan Buddhism, in a volume that is organized into such themes as spirituality, trust, dependence, money, and ancestors.
  • Saying Yes to Change: Essential Wisdom for Your Journey by Joan Z. Borysenko and Gordon F. Dveirin - Change is both scary business and an inescapable fact of life. Everything is impermanent and eventually passes away. Some changes are natural, like aging through the lifecycle. Others are sudden and catastrophic, such as illness, bankruptcy, or the death of a loved one. Change is an opportunity to shed the limitations of the lower self and be reborn to the higher self. This book is an inspiring and practical guide to that process, incorporating personal stories, cutting-edge psychological research, and the perennial philosophy of the world’s great wisdom traditions.
  • Inner Simplicity: 100 Ways to Regain Peace and Nourish Your Soul by Elaine St. James - The author of Simplify Your Life offers a path to the simpler life of mind and spirit through meditation, solitude, making spirituality a regular part of the day, and getting in touch with your creativity.
  • Simplify Your Life: 100 Ways to Slow Down and Enjoy the Things That Really Matter by Elaine St. James - The more complex life becomes, the more people crave simplicity. Whether it's in your work, relationships, health, finances, or leisure time, North America's simplicity expert Elaine St. James can help you learn to unwind and improve the quality of your life. If you're feeling over-powered, overextended, and overwhelmed, SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE is the antidote, providing one hundred proven, practical steps for creating a simple and satisfying way of life.
  • Finding Yourself in Transition: Using Life’s Changes for Spiritual Awakening by Robert Brumet - Discover how to use change as a gateway to greater personal and spiritual growth. Brumet weaves together strands of psychology, Eastern and Western mysticism, Bible interpretation, and personal stories as he gently guides you into new beginnings.
  • The Art of Imperfection: Simple Ways to Make Peace with Yourself by Veronique Vienne - Forgive yourself: Self-acceptance doesn't have to be hard work. Cultivate your most pleasurable flaws. Find out when not to have the last word. Don't be afraid to ask silly questions. Learn to make lists--and forget them. And remember: The most perfect moments usually happen at the most imperfect time.
  • 55 Concepts: Guide to Conscious Living by Michael Cavallaro - The 55 Concepts are simple, yet powerful tools that when put into practice can change your life. While you may be able to read the book in one sitting, integrating them into your life brings you to a new level of clarity, understanding and ability to create what you want. Concept books are great gifts for those who want to have a different perspective on life, the young person starting out and those who value personal growth. This book is filled with practical and commonsense ideas for self transformation.
  • The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace by Don Miguel Ruiz and Janet Mills - In The Voice of Knowledge, Miguel Ruiz reminds us of a profound and simple truth: The only way to end our emotional suffering and restore our joy in living is to stop believing in lies — mainly about ourselves. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, this breakthrough book shows us how to recover our faith in the truth and return to our own common sense.
  • Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb - With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is rev­olutionary in its candor, offering a deeply per­sonal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly reveal­ing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them.
  • Help Me! : A Psychotherapist’s Tried-and-True Techniques for a Happier Relationship with Yourself and the People You Love by Richard B. Joelson - In Help Me! A Psychotherapist’s Tried-and-True Techniques for a Happier Relationship with Yourself and the People You Love, Dr. Richard Joelson, a respected psychotherapist with a loyal and long-time counseling practice, presents real-life challenges and the practical solutions that have worked for his patients. His insights are accessible and valuable for people in psychotherapy treatment, but also provide guidance for those who have not yet been able to find the help they need.
  • On Bullshit by Harry G. Frankfurt - One of the most salient features of our culture is that there is so much bullshit. Everyone knows this. Each of us contributes his share. But we tend to take the situation for granted. Most people are rather confident of their ability to recognize bullshit and to avoid being taken in by it. So the phenomenon has not aroused much deliberate concern. We have no clear understanding of what bullshit is, why there is so much of it, or what functions it serves. And we lack a conscientiously developed appreciation of what it means to us. In other words, as Harry Frankfurt writes, "we have no theory.”
  • The Language of Letting Go : Daily Meditations for Codependents by Melody Beattie - Written for those of us who struggle with codependency, these daily meditations offer growth and renewal, and remind us that the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own self-care.
  • No Death, No Fear: Comforting Wisdom for Life by Thich Nhat Hanh - With hard-won wisdom and refreshing insight, Thich Nhat Hanh confronts a subject that has been contemplated by Buddhist monks and nuns for twenty-five-hundred years— and a question that has been pondered by almost anyone who has ever lived: What is death? In No Death, No Fear, the acclaimed teacher and poet examines our concepts of death, fear, and the very nature of existence. Through Zen parables, guided meditations, and personal stories, he explodes traditional myths of how we live and die. Thich Nhat Hanh shows us a way to live a life unfettered by fear.

Trauma

  • It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are by Mark Wolynn - Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experience or in chemical imbalances in our brains—but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited—that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. 
  • Focusing by Eugene T. Gendlin - Focusing' is a technique first developed 25 years ago by American psychologist and philosopher Eugene Gendlin. Hugely influential, it offers six specific steps you can take to open up your inner world of deeper feelings and intuition - and shows you how to listen to others with more empathy. 
  • Gift of our Compulsions by Mary O’Malley - Everyone is compulsive to some degree. People may worry too much, work too hard, or overindulge in food or alcohol or drug use. Once a compulsion is admitted, the usual option is to try to control the behavior. But this effort typically ends with the problem compulsion returning, or a new one taking its place. In this book based on three decades of research, Mary O’Malley has crafted a new approach to healing compulsion, with simple exercises and techniques and an inspiring tone. People are compulsive for a reason, she says, and by observing the things they are compulsive about, engaging those compulsions, readers can begin to understand them and change their actions around them. 
  • The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence by Gavin de Becker - In this empowering book, Gavin de Becker, the man Oprah Winfrey calls the nation's leading expert on violent behavior, shows you how to spot even subtle signs of danger—before it's too late. Shattering the myth that most violent acts are unpredictable, de Becker, whose clients include top Hollywood stars and government agencies, offers specific ways to protect yourself and those you love, including...how to act when approached by a stranger...when you should fear someone close to you...what to do if you are being stalked...how to uncover the source of anonymous threats or phone calls...the biggest mistake you can make with a threatening person...and more. Learn to spot the danger signals others miss. It might just save your life.
  • You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One by Steven Stosny - Now, in You Don't Have to Take It Anymore, Dr. Stosny puts his effective, highly sought-after program into print, making it widely available for the first time for women who want to stop walking on eggshells. Drawing on his seventeen years of experience treating thousands of clients, Dr. Stosny explains the many different forms a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship can take. He explains how to identify abuse and why it's important to take action to change the relationship -- for not only is verbal and emotional abuse monumentally destructive to both the adults in the relationship, it also hurts their children. Dr. Stosny shows women and men how to apply his methods at home, shows women how to get their men to change, and demonstrates how they can know if change is permanent.
  • Mother Hunger- How Adult Daughters can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance by Kelly McDaniel. - Many of us find ourselves stuck in unhealthy habits simply because we don't see a better way. With Mother Hunger, McDaniel helps women break the cycle of destructive behavior by taking a fresh look at childhood trauma and it's lasting impact. In doing so, she destigmatizes the shame that comes with being under-mothered and misdiagnosed. McDaniel offers a healing path with powerful tools that include therapeutic interventions and lifestyle changes in service to healthy relationships.
  • Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self by Elan Golomb - In this compelling book, Elan Golomb identifies the crux of the emotional and psychological problems of millions of adults. Simply put, the children of narcissist -- offspring of parents whose interest always towered above the most basic needs of their sons and daughters -- share a common belief: They believe they do not have the right to exist.
  • The Object of my Affection is in my Reflection: Coping with narcissists by Rokelle Lerner - In her latest book, relationship expert Rokelle Lerner, tackles the inner workings of narcissism and offers compassionate and realistic advice for surviving a relationship with those afflicted with this personality disorder.
  • Ambushed by Betrayal by Allan J Katz and Michele Saffier CSATS - Infidelity, gaslighting, and deception shatter the most sacred part of a committed relationship, the attachment. The foundation upon which your relationship house is built is demolished in an instant, leaving unsuspecting partners in rubble and twisted wires trying to make sense of what just happened. This is Betrayal Trauma.With the experience and wisdom of twenty-four years working with betrayed partners and utilizing the methods developed, Michele F. Saffier and Allan J. Katz offer you a self-guided process of healing, unlike any other—a heroes’ journey.
  • “Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility by Ramani S. Durvasula Ph.D - It’s time to take our lives back from a world of narcissism, entitlement, and toxic relationships.  “Don’t You Know Who I Am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist.
  • “I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression” by Terry Real - Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children. This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness” that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. 
  • The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes - Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds--chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power. In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.
  • Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents by Nina W Brown EdD LPC - Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations.
  • Silently Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners - Understanding Covert Incest- by Kenneth M. Adams - Dr. Adams explains how 'feeling close,' especially with the opposite-sex parent, is not the source of comfort the image suggests, especially when that child is cheated out of a childhood by being a parent's surrogate partner. He offers a framework to understand this covert incest and its effect on sexuality, intimacy, and relationships, and how victims can begin the process of recovery.
  • The Courage to Heal For Men and Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Laura Davis - The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and a map of the healing journey to every woman who was sexually abused as a child—and to those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible
  • The Courage to Heal Workbook For Men and Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Laura Davis - In this groundbreaking companion to The Courage to Heal, Laura Davis offers an inspiring, in-depth workbook that speaks to all women and men healing from the effects of child sexual abuse. The combination of checklists, writing and art Projects, open-ended questions and activities expertly guides the survivor through the healing process.
  •  Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn - Based on Jon Kabat-Zinn’s renowned mindfulness-based stress reduction program, this classic, groundbreaking work—which gave rise to a whole new field in medicine and psychology—shows you how to use medically proven mind-body approaches derived from meditation and yoga to counteract stress, establish greater balance of body and mind, and stimulate well-being and healing.
  • The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs - The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out”, but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger - a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author’s own journey, and the stories of many of his friends and clients, Velvet Rage addresses the myth of gay pride and outlines three stages to emotional well-being for gay men. The revised and expanded edition covers issues related to gay marriage, a broader range of examples that extend beyond middle-class gay men in America, and expansion of the original discussion on living authentically as a gay man.
  • Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships by Kelly McDaniel - Ready to Heal provides an opportunity for women to break free from painful addictive relationships. Kelly McDaniel provides the reader with the tools they will need to move along the path of living a life where intimacy is possible. Readers have an opportunity to begin to "connect the dots" in their own relationship patterns by following the stories of four brave women.
  • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van dec Kolk - Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. 
  • No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. Schwartz - Is there just one “you”? We’ve been taught to believe we have a single identity, and to feel fear or shame when we can’t control the inner voices that don’t match the ideal of who we think we should be. Yet Dr. Richard Schwartz’s research now challenges this “mono-mind” theory. “All of us are born with many sub-minds—or parts,” says Dr. Schwartz. “These parts are not imaginary or symbolic. They are individuals who exist as an internal family within us—and the key to health and happiness is to honor, understand, and love every part.”
  • Silently-Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners by Dr. Ken Adams - When a parent singles out a child for special privileges and attention, that child is often unaware that the relationship is unhealthy—even incestuous. As adults, these children struggle to feel validated, because while they have not been directly abused, they feel a sense of violation and crossed boundaries—usually done in the name of 'love' and 'caring.' The parent's love feels more confining than freeing, more demanding than giving, more intrusive than nurturing. Yet these children suffer from what psychologist Kenneth Adams calls The Silent Seduction—because there is nothing loving or caring about a close parent-child relationship that services the needs of the parent rather than the child. Dr. Adams explains how 'feeling close,' especially with the opposite-sex parent, is not the source of comfort the image suggests, especially when that child is cheated out of a childhood by being a parent's surrogate partner. He offers a framework to understand this covert incest and its effect on sexuality, intimacy, and relationships, and how victims can begin the process of recovery.

Al-Anon

  • As We Understood by Al-Anon - Spirituality, Al-Anon style. Members share their understanding of the spiritual ideas and tools of the Al-Anon program. 
  • The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today’s Generation by Melody Beattie - The New Codependency is an owner’s manual to learning to be who you are and gives you the tools necessary to reclaim your life by renouncing unhealthy practices.
  • One Day At a Time by AI-Anon - Inspirational readings relate Al‑Anon philosophy to everyday situations, helping to make each day better than the one before.
  • Understanding Codependency by Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse and Joseph Cruse, M.D. - What is co-dependency? How does co-dependency happen? Who is affected by co-dependency? What can be done for a co-dependent? Am I a co-dependent? Understanding Co-dependency answers these questions and develops a scientifically based framework for separating the person and their past from their current disease or disorder. It places our past history and present environment (marriage, job, personal life) in their proper perspectives and shows us how to build a happy, healthy life.
  • Opening Our Hearts, Transforming Our Losses by Al-Anon - From Contents - Grief as a Process; Living with the Family Disease of Alcoholism; Loss of the Dream; Grieving for Our Childhood; Loss in Relationships; Death of a Loved One; Dealing with Our Feelings; Taking Care of Ourselves Spiritual Growth from Grieving.
  • How AI-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics by AI-Anon - Al-Anon's basic book discusses the mutual-help program of recovery, including personal stories. A beginning approach to the Twelve Concepts of Service is included.
  • The 12 Steps: A Way Out by Friends in Recovery - Twelve-step program workbook including individual exercises and suggestions for group activities.
  • A Good First Step: A First Step Workbook for Twelve Step Programs by Richard A. Hamel M.S. - Using a structured format, this helpful booklet allows us to take this important "make or break" recovery step.

Addiction

  • The Big Book by Alcoholics Anonymous - Alcoholics Anonymous, also known as the “Big Book,” presents the A.A. program for recovery from alcoholism. First published in 1939, its purpose was to show other alcoholics how the first 100 people of A.A. got sober. 
  • A.A. for the Older Alcoholic-Never Too Late by Alcoholics Anonymous - Eight alcoholics share their stories of finding recovery in Alcoholics Anonymous after the age of 60. Far from feeling that their lives are over, these men and women express that, having come to A.A., it is time to start living.
  • As Bill Sees It by Alcoholics Anonymous - A source of comfort and inspiration, this collection of Bill W.’s writings addresses themes such as acceptance, gratitude and spirituality. Excerpted from the Big Book, the "Twelve and Twelve," Grapevine and other A.A. literature. 
  • Living Sober by Alcoholics Anonymous - This practical booklet demonstrates through simple examples how A.A. members throughout the world live and stay away from that "first drink" one day at a time. Covers topics such as attending events where alcohol is served, relationships in sobriety and much more.
  • Never Enough The NeuroScience and Experience of Addiction by Judith Grisel - From a renowned behavioral neuroscientist and recovering addict, a rare page-turning work of science that draws on personal insights to reveal how drugs work, the dangerous hold they can take on the brain, and the surprising way to combat today's epidemic of addiction. Judith Grisel was a daily drug user and college dropout when she began to consider that her addiction might have a cure, one that she herself could perhaps discover by studying the brain. Now, after twenty-five years as a neuroscientist, she shares what she and other scientists have learned about addiction, enriched by captivating glimpses of her personal journey.
  • Understanding Addiction: Know Science, No Stigma by Dr. Charles Smith and Dr. Jason Hunt - In Understanding Addiction: Know Science, No Stigma, doctors Chuck Smith and Jason Hunt bring a unique and important perspective to the subject of addiction. Experts in the field, Smith and Hunt have personal, firsthand experience with the humiliation and shame that accompanies substance use disorder. But addiction, as they point out, is a disease, no less so than diabetes or heart disease, and it needs to be treated as such. If you, or a loved one, is struggling with addiction, you'll find help in Smith and Hunt's book. When one understands the science behind addiction, one can begin to move forward. Beyond the stigma lies hope.
  • In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by MD Gabor Mate - Based on Gabor Maté’s two decades of experience as a medical doctor and his groundbreaking work with the severely addicted on Vancouver’s skid row, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts radically reenvisions this much misunderstood field by taking a holistic approach. Dr. Maté presents addiction not as a discrete phenomenon confined to an unfortunate or weak-willed few, but as a continuum that runs throughout (and perhaps underpins) our society; not a medical "condition" distinct from the lives it affects, rather the result of a complex interplay among personal history, emotional, and neurological development, brain chemistry, and the drugs (and behaviors) of addiction. Simplifying a wide array of brain and addiction research findings from around the globe, the book avoids glib self-help remedies, instead promoting a thorough and compassionate self-understanding as the first key to healing and wellness.
  • Sober On a Drunk Planet: Giving up Alcohol by Sean Alexander - Sober on a Drunk Planet: Giving Up Alcohol recognizes how difficult it is to break free of drinking culture and provides you with all the motivation you need to kickstart a new life. Inside, you'll discover: Why you need to reframe the idea of 'giving up' – and how doing so will make all the difference to your success ; The incredible transformation you'll see in your body when you stop drinking (there are subtle side effects you're not even aware of until you stop) ; Why your bank balance will thank you for cutting out alcohol (and it reaches far beyond the money you'll save) ; How alcohol affects every relationship in your life – and how its absence does the same (but with greater rewards) ; The negative feedback loop you didn't know you were creating – and how breaking free is the key to huge personal growth ; What you can learn from David Bowie…the 12-step program and how cutting out alcohol creates the perfect space to do so; How to thrive as alcohol-free within an alcohol-obsessed workplace; Why choosing a life without drinks could be the answer to transforming your career; How to navigate the practicalities of being sober on a drunk planet – and why you'll want to. 
  • Overcoming Addictions: The Spiritual Solution by Deepak Chopra MD - Society has claimed its victims; dependency upon food, drugs, caffeine, cigarettes, alcohol and sex has taken its toll on many. Deepak Chopra explores the motivation behind these addictions and attempts to teach the listener how to overcome them. Chopra has a charming speaking style full of spirituality and deep commitment to truth. He possesses an inner wisdom and "knowing" that attracts and mesmerizes listeners. His hypnotic performance soothes and relaxes, creating the perfect atmosphere for absorbing spiritual teachings.

Love

  • 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman - In the #1 New York Times international bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.
  • Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman - Gary, with more than 35 years of counseling couples, believes that divorce is the lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as intimate teammates. So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive and mutually beneficial marriage men and women long for. It’s the type of information Gary himself wished he had before he got married.
  • Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson - In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Johnson shares her groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships. The message of Hold Me Tight is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection. Dr. Johnson teaches that the way to enhance or save a relationship is to be open, attuned, and responsive to each other and to reestablish emotional connection. 
  • Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, J. Keith Miller - Pia Mellody unravels the intricate dynamics of unhealthy love relationships and shows us how to let go of toxic love. Through twelve-step work, exercises, and journal-keeping, Facing Love Addiction compassionately and realistically outlines the recovery process for Love Addicts, and Mellody’s fresh perspective and clear methods work to comfort and motivate all those looking to establish and maintain healthy, happy relationships. 
  • Addiction to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships by Susan Peabody - Love addiction manifests in many forms, from Fatal Attraction-type obsessive lust to less extreme but nonetheless psychologically and emotionally harmful forms. The most common of these is staying in a bad relationship because of a fear of being alone-the "I hate you but don't leave me" relationship. In ADDICTION TO LOVE, recovering love addict Susan Peabody explains the variety of ways this disorder plays out, from the obsessively doting love addict to the addict who can't disentangle from an unfulfilling, dead-end relationship. Peabody provides an in-depth and easy-to-follow recovery program for those suffering from this unhealthy and often dangerous addiction and explains how to create a loving, safe, and fulfilling relationship.

Bereavement

  • On Death and Dying by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross - In this remarkable book, Dr. Kübler-Ross first explored the now-famous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives readers a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient's family, bringing hope to all who are involved.
  • On Life after Death by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross - A collection of inspiring essays with frank and compassionate advice for those dealing with terminal illness or the death of a loved one, from the pioneering author of On Death and Dying and On Grief and Grieving
  • On Grief  and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross - On Grief and Grieving applies these stages to the grieving process and weaves together theory, inspiration, and practical advice, including sections on sadness, hauntings, dreams, isolation, and healing. This is “a fitting finale and tribute to the acknowledged expert on end-of-life matters” (Good Housekeeping).
  • I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One by Brook Noel - The grief book that just "gets it."  Whether you're grieving the sudden loss of a loved one or helping someone else through their grief, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye offers a comforting hand to help guide you through the grieving process, from the first few weeks to the longer-term emotional and physical effects. It then reveals some of the myths of the grieving process and what really happens as you navigate through the pain.
  • Your Grief, Your Way by Shelby Forsythia - Your Grief, Your Way features: Multiple ways to process grief: Find relief through short meditations, mindful reframings, journaling prompts, concrete actions, and more. A year of daily messages of comfort: Each page includes a quote and a short paragraph about grief along with a practical tip--something you can do to tend to your grief. Comfort and practicality in short spurts: Discover strength and support in these bite-size nuggets, since grief reduces the ability to focus. Quotes from a wide range of grievers: Tend to your grief with thoughtful words of people who have been in your shoes.

Personality Disorders

  • Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Kit: The Road Back to Sanity by Dee Gardner - This book is written to provide practical, real strategies to show you how to heal and recover from the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse. Within the pages of this special recovery guide, the author revealed how to deal with the impacts of narcissistic abuse and shared practical steps that will help you move forward beyond self-doubt and fear to create a life of peace and meaningful purpose.
  • You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One by Steven Stosny - Now, in You Don't Have to Take It Anymore, Dr. Stosny puts his effective, highly sought-after program into print, making it widely available for the first time for women who want to stop walking on eggshells. Drawing on his seventeen years of experience treating thousands of clients, Dr. Stosny explains the many different forms a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship can take. He explains how to identify abuse and why it's important to take action to change the relationship -- for not only is verbal and emotional abuse monumentally destructive to both the adults in the relationship, it also hurts their children. Dr. Stosny shows women and men how to apply his methods at home, shows women how to get their men to change, and demonstrates how they can know if change is permanent.
  • Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger - Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are 'walking on eggshells' to avoid the next confrontation? If the answer is 'yes,' someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life. 
  • When a Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder: A Compassionate Guide to Building a Healthy and Supportive Relationship by Daniel S. Lobel PhD. - Loving someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be complex and overwhelming. This guide provides compassionate strategies and exercises to help you set boundaries, practice self-care, and build a healthier and more supportive relationship.
  • When your Mother has Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for Adult Children by Daniel S. Lobel PhD - Growing up with a mom who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is difficult―but it’s still possible to have a functioning adult relationship with her. When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder provides you with crucial information for understanding the patterns behind her Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as the tools you need to start your own recovery process. Find ways to reconcile your complicated thoughts and feelings with straightforward and easy-to-use techniques. You’ll also discover a number of sample dialogues that give you blueprints for safe and secure interactions in a variety of situations.
  • Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder: Communication Skills to Manage Intense Emotions, Set Boundaries, and Reduce Conflict by Jerold J. Kreisman MD. - In this compassionate guide, Jerold Kreisman—author of I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me—offers a powerful set of tools to help you express yourself, set boundaries, and cultivate healthy communication with a loved one who is diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). 
  • Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family-Eleanor Payson - Helping people reclaim their lives from this sinister exploitative force is the mission behind Payson's book, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family. Using simple metaphors from the American classic, The Wizard of Oz, Payson illustrates how Dorothy's journey captures all the seductive illusions and challenges that occur when we encounter the narcissist. 
  • The Boy Who Couldn’t Stop Washing: The Experience and Treatment of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder by Judith L. Rapoport - Cleaning, counting, washing, avoiding, checking—these are some of the pointless rituals that sufferers are powerless to stop. Now a distinguished psychiatrist and expert on OCD reveals exciting breakthroughs in diagnosis, successful new behaviorist therapies and drug treatments, as well as lists of resources and references. Drawing on the extraordinary experiences of her patients, Dr. Judith Rapoport unravels the mysteries surrounding this irrational disorder . . . and provides prescriptions for action that promise hope and help.

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