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1. Helping Couples Heal - "Helping Couples Heal is an ongoing podcast designed to help couples recover and heal from the impact of betrayal trauma on their relationships. Over the course of this podcast series, we will offer resources and support and teach you the tools and skills necessary to heal your relationship. You will also hear from recovered addicts, partners and couples who will share their stories, as well as from experts in the field of betrayal."
2. Beauty after Betrayal Podcast - Hosted by Jenni Rochelle - "Welcome to the Beauty After Betrayal podcast with Jenni Rochelle aka the Queen of Intimacy. As a coach and mentor for smart, successful women who desire to create conscious intimate connections with themselves, their bodies and their beloveds, Jenni has helped hundreds of women reconnect with themselves and partners."
3. Beauty Beyond Betrayal - Heal from Betrayal, Affair Recovery, Betrayal Trauma Recovery - Hosted by Lisa Limehouse -  "Have you just found out your husband has sexually betrayed you? Do you feel like the pain will never end? Are you so overwhelmed that you just don’t know how to navigate through the trauma it has brought upon you? Do you feel like you will never trust anyone ever again?
   In this podcast you will find biblical guidance, pure honesty and tactical solutions that will help you heal from the betrayal of an affair. My mission is to help you heal from the devastation, rebuild trust, and rise in confidence so you can find your identity after marital betrayal. If you’re ready to rise above the heartbreak, trauma, and devastation to a place of hope and restoration - then you’re in the right place."
4. Sex, Love, and Addiction with Dr. Rob @seekingintegrity.com - This podcast features robust discussions focused on healing from chronic infidelity, cheating, porn, and sex addiction, along with the pain of relationship betrayal. 
5. Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction with Dr. Rob and Tami @seekingintegrity.com - The Overcoming Betrayal and Addiction podcast, featuring Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami VerHelst, presents a conversational Q&A style discussion drawn from listener questions about sex and porn addictions, infidelity, cheating, and hard work required to heal relationship betrayal. 
6. Betrayal, betrayal trauma, & DARVO: Promoting individual & collective healing by Melissa Ming Foynes, Podcast: The Science & Soul of Living Well, 7 May 2021 - "In this episode, I speak with Dr. Jennifer J. Freyd, the Founder and President of the Center for Institutional Courage, Inc (https://www.institutionalcourage.org/), keynote speaker, author, and professor emerit of psychology with over 30 years of experience researching people and their relationships with institutions.) Dr. Freyd emphasizes how it is in our nature as human beings to be sensitive to betrayal because experiencing betrayal can be so costly. She also explains how our wiring for connection, attachment, and love can contribute to us not only feeling great shame when we are betrayed, but also may also contribute to a phenomenon she refers to as "betrayal blindness." She thoughtfully shares her research on betrayal, different types of betrayal (e.g., institutional & interpersonal betrayal), reasons we may forget about experiences of trauma or have difficulty remembering certain details, and DARVO (D - Deny, A - Attack, RVO - Reverse Victim & Offender), a strategy that can be used to deflect blame when confronted with accusations of wrongdoing. Importantly, she highlights hope-instilling aspects of her research which show us how we can refrain from engaging in DARVO regardless of whether or not we believe we did what we are being accused of doing. We also discuss specific, concrete actions we can engage in on individual, interpersonal, and institutional levels to counteract the individual and collective harm caused by DARVO and effectively navigate difficult conversations with courage, curiosity, compassion, accountability, willingness to be vulnerable, openness to believing things we may not understand, and respect for ourselves and others." 
7. The Human Intimacy Podcast with Dr. Kevin Skinner - Through thought-provoking conversations with experts, personal stories, and practical advice, we’ll uncover the secrets to nurturing meaningful relationships in a fast-paced digital world. From exploring trust and fostering emotional intimacy to navigating conflicts and rediscovering oneself, we’re here to discover the essence of what it means to truly connect with others and ourselves. Whether you’re seeking to improve your relationships, gain insights into human behaviors, or simply crave a meaningful conversation that enriches your understanding of human connection, you won’t want to miss a single episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast.
8. The Secure Love Podcast - Real Time Couples Therapy - With Julie Menanno - Welcome to The Secure Love Podcast: Real Time Couples Therapy with Julie Menanno. Julie Menanno is a licensed therapist dedicated to helping couples build secure, lasting connections using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In each episode, Julie works with a real couple in their 30s, Melissa and Drew, and just like many of us, they are navigating life's challenges, raising kids, managing busy careers, and working on their relationship.
9. Coupleship Inc. Videocast with Debra Kaplan and Rick Kahler - Debra Kaplan and Rick Kahler, bring their unique clinical and financial perspectives to this videocast series based on their book, Coupleship Inc: From Financial Conflict to Financial Intimacy. In each episode, Deb and Rick delve into a different topic and bring their book to life to help couples successfully navigate financial conflict toward a healthy Coupleship Inc.
   
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1. How Porn Can Affect the Brain Like a Drug - A deeper look into how the brain works reveals that addictions to harmful substances like tobacco have striking similarities to porn compulsion, including impaired decision-making.
2. Why Porn Can Be Difficult to Quit - When it comes to the topic of porn, one of the most common questions is whether or not it can actually be addictive. According to many addiction experts, it absolutely can be.
3. How Porn Can Negatively Impact Love and Intimacy - Countless studies consistently show that porn consumers tend to struggle in their relationships. From poorer relationship quality to an increased likelihood of cheating, research suggests that porn plays a major role in fueling unhealthy relationship dynamics.
4. The Neuroscience of Pornography - "Adolescence is one of the most active and critical times of brain development — the adolescent brain is highly impressionable and vulnerable to forming patterns of behavior. During this time, the brain is establishing the foundations of neural pathways that contribute to long-term brain development. Bottom line: When you learn something at this age, it leaves an impression that sticks."

• Willow Tree Counseling: An Introduction to Sex Addiction and Betrayal - "This course is an introduction to sex addiction and partner betrayal. It is broken into 15 video segments which provide over 2 hours of information. We will explain what sex addiction is from a behavioral and a neurological perspective. We will also discuss the relationship of trauma and sex addiction as well as the effective treatment of sex addiction. The betrayed partner's experience will be explored. This will look at the trauma experienced as the partner of a sex addict as well as understanding the process of healing as a betrayed partner. Lastly, this course discuss the importance of therapeutic disclosure and what effective healing for the relationship looks like. See the curriculum below for a more detailed list of topics." 
• SAA RECOVERY - Am I a Sex Addict? - "SAAA fellowship of individuals who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other so they may overcome their sexual addiction and help others recover from sexual addiction or dependency."
• Addiction Center - Sex Addiction Symptoms and Who it Effects - "Addiction Center - Your Guide for Addiction and Recovery"
• Sex and Relationship Healing- Resources, Webinars, and Discussion Groups for Addicts and Partners - "You Deserve a Healthy and Loving Relationship - This is a free resource website provided by the treatment experts at Seeking Integrity."
• Carol The Coach - Help Them Heal - "Helping Couples Heal, The ERCEM Way - For couples seeking empathy based recovery. Learn how to navigate these rough waters and move forward in developing a new life. The life you deserve to live. Let us help you both heal."
• Sex Help - Resources for Sex Addicts and Partners of Sex Addicts - "The International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) is an organization dedicated to providing premier training, certification and resources for sexual addiction practitioners. Through IITAP, those suffering from a sexual addiction or compulsive behavior have access to certified practitioners, resources, treatment options and referrals to get the help they need."
• Smart Recovery - "Sex Addiction and Recovery" - "SMART Recovery supports people in the United States, Canada, and all over the world to manage addictive and problematic behaviors."
• Beyond Affairs - "We are Brian and Anne Bercht. For the past 20 years, we have helped hundreds of couples heal from every kind of marital unfaithfulness. And we can help you recover too."
• Bloom for Women - "Our team of therapists, data scientists, and medical experts came together to create a resource of courses dedicated to helping you understand and navigate betrayal trauma."
• The Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center - "PoSARC or The Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center educates, nurtures and helps partners work with the challenges of being coupled with a sexually deceptive, chronic cheater."
• Vicki Tidwell Palmer - "Victoria Priya, formerly known as Vicki Tidwell Palmer, is the author of the upcoming book Personal Boundaries For Dummies® (Spring 2024) and the creator of The Radiant Threefold Path (Return+Reclaim+Receive). She hosted the popular Beyond Bitchy Podcast: Mastering the Art of Boundaries (2018-2021) and authored the bestseller Moving Beyond Betrayal. Her blog, Thriving After Betrayal, was recognized as a top infidelity blog in 2019."
• Esther Perel - "Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel is the New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and she is also the host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram."
• Dr. Joe Kort - "Psychotherapist Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, is the clinical director and founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist, author of four books, lecturer and facilitator of therapeutic workshops." 
• Matt Dobschuetz - "Host of the Porn Free Radio Podcast and Author of Porn Free: Becoming The Type Of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn"
  
  

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