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Words Of Wisdom

Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all. -Aristotle

A wise person knows that there is something to be learned from everyone.  

Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is.-Mandy Hale

Fullfillment is what we really want. Pleasure is what we think we want.

Promise me you'll always remember: you're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.-Winnie the Pooh to Piglet

Too often we enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.-John F. Kennedy

Opinion is really the lowest form of human Knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.-Bill Bullard

It's easy to judge. It's more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Though understanding, we grow.- Doe Zantamuta

Everybody has gone through something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back to the person they once were.

As you are shifting, you will begin to realize that you are not the same person you used to be. The things you used to tolerate have now become intolerable. Where you once remained quiet, you are now speaking your truth. Where you once battled and argued, you are now choosing to remain silent. You are beginning to understand the value of your voice and there are some situations that no longer deserve your time, energy, and focus.

You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone.-Maya Angelou

Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.-Erich Fromm

People were created to be loved. Things were created to be used. The reason why this world is in chaos is because things are being loved and people are being used.-Dalai Lama

Love is based on your capacity to trust in a reality beyond fear...to trust a timeless truth bigger than all our difficulties.

The truest form of love is how you behave toward someone, not how you feel about them.-Steve Hall

Your words mean nothing when your actions are the opposite.-The Buddha

A mistake repeated more than once is a decision.-Paulo Coelho

We repeat what we don't repair.- Christine Langley Obaugh

Pain serves a purpose. Without it, you are in danger. What you cannot feel you cannot take care of. -Rebecca Solnit

Stop expecting loyalty from people who can't even give you honesty.

Until a man heals himself, he'll be toxic to every woman who tries to love him.

I wonder how much of what weighs me down, is not mine to carry.

I'm starting to remember who I was before you convinced me I was worthless.

Don't allow your wounds to transform you into someone you are not.-Paulo Coelho

May I accept myself as I am. May I be loving. May I be peaceful. May I be happy. May I be well. May I be safe. May I be free from suffering. May I meet the suffering and ignorance of others with compassion.

You have permission to rest. You are not responsible for fixing everything that is broken. You do not have to try and make everyone happy. For now, take time for you. It's time to replenish.

Brain at 3 am: I can see you are trying to sleep, so I would like to offer you a selection of every memory, unresolved issue, or things you should have said or done today, or in the past 40 years!

You may not be able to control every situation or outcome, but you can control your attitude and how you deal with it.

Peace requires us to surrender our illusions of control. -Jack Koenfield

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.-Brene Brown

We all have inner demons to fight. We call these demons "fear" and "hatred", and "anger". If you don't conquer them, then a life of a hundred years...is a tragedy. If you do, a life of a single day can be a triumph.-Yip Man

Hatred and fear blind us. We no longer see each other. We only see the faces of monsters, and that gives us the courage to destroy each other.-Thich Nhat Hanh

Love is our true nature, but it's covered over by a protective layer of fear.-Jack Kornfield

F.E.A.R. has two meanings- Forget everything and run or Face everything and rise. The choice is yours.

Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us.

I had my own notion of grief. I thought it was the sad time that followed the death of someone you love. And you had to push though it to get to the other side. But I'm learning there is no other side. There is no pushing through. But rather, there is absorption. Adjustment. Acceptance. And grief is not something you complete, but rather you endure. Grief is not a task to finish and move on, but an element of yourself-An alteration of your being. A new way of seeing. A new definition of self.-Gwen Flowers

To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own.-Jack Kornfield

For what it's worth: it's never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over again.

Apologizing doesn't always mean you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means you value your relationship more than your ego.

People will always notice the change in your attitude towards them, but they will never notice it's their behavior that made you change.

Until we have seen someone's darkness, we don't really know who they are. Until we have forgiven someone's darkness, we don't really know what love is.-Marianne Williamson

You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.-Thich Nhat Hanh

The biggest communication problem is we don't listen to understand, we listen to reply.

What you must do to move yourself into the mental framework for "miracle making" is to just let go.-Dr. Wayne Dyer

You've got to learn to leave the table when love's no longer being served.-Nina Simone

Most people don't see you, they see their image of you.

There is solitude of suffering when you go through the darkness that is lonely, intense, and terrible. Words become powerless to express your pain; what others hear from your words is so distant and different from what you are actually suffering.- John O'Donohue

Spiritual practice is not just sitting and meditating. Practice is looking, thinking, touching, drinking, eating, and talking. Every act, every breath, and every step can be practice and can help us to become more ourselves.-Thich Nhat Hanh

You don't need religion to have morals. If you can't determine right from wrong, you lack empathy, not religion.

Being aware of a single shortcoming within yourself is far more useful than being aware of a thousand in someone else.-The 14th Dalai Lama

We need to teach our kids that mental illnesses are just like physical illnesses and deserve the same kind of care and compassion.-Michelle Obama

When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That's the message he is sending.-Thich Nhat Hanh

Those who judge will never understand, and those who understand will never judge.-Wilson Kanadi

Those who are awake live in a constant state of amazement.-Jack Kornfield

Be thankful for today, because in one moment, your entire life could change.

Hurt people hurt people. That's how pain patterns get passed on, generation after generation after generation. Break the chain today. Meet anger with sympathy, contempt with compassion, cruelty with kindness. Greet grimaces with smiles. Forgive and forget about finding fault. Love is the weapon of the future.-Yehuda Berg

It took me a long time to understand what it means to forgive someone. I always wondered how I could forgive someone who chose to hurt me? But after a lot of soul searching, I realized that forgiveness isn't about accepting or excusing their behavior...it's about letting it go and preventing their behavior from destroying my heart.

Weigh the true advantages of forgiveness and resentment to the heart, then choose.-Jack Kornfield

Forgiving someone doesn't mean that their behavior was ok. What it does mean is that we're ready to move on. To release the heavy weight. To shape our own life, on our terms, without any unneccessary burdens.-Dr. Suzanne Gelb

Inside you are a thousand generations of your ancestors, who learned how to survive difficulties. Do not be afraid. You too will find your way.-Jack Kornfield

It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to, has power over you, if you allow it.-Leon Brown

If you want to change your life, you must first change your mind.

If you are willing to look at another person's behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, the you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.-Yogi Bhajan

Understanding the connection between boundaries, accountability, acceptance, and compassion has made me a kinder person.-Brene Brown

Attachment to view is the greatest impediment to the spiritual path.-Thich Nhat Hanh

The truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.-Pema Chodron

Sometimes the reason good things are not happening to you is because you are the good thing that needs to happen to other people.

Whenever you are confronted with an opponent, conquer him with love.-Mahatma Gandhi

Everyone has a chapter they don't read outloud.

As long as you feel pain you're still alive. As long as you make mistakes you're still human. As long as you keep trying there's still hope.

The most straightforward advice on awakening enlightened mind is this: practice not causing harm to anyone-yourself or others-and every day, do what you can to be helpful.-Pema Chodron

What is the difference between "I like you" and "i love you" When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily. One who understands this, understands life.-Buddha

Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.-Dalai Lama

We can't help everyone, but everyone can help someone.

It is not impermanence that makes us suffer. What makes us suffer is wanting things to be permanent when they are not.-Thich Nhat Hanh

Every situation in life is temporary. So, when life is good, make sure you enjoy and receive it fully. And when life is not so good, remember that it will not last forever and better days are on the way.-Jenni Young

Like a sandcastle, all is temporary. Build it, tend it, enjoy it. And when the time comes let it go.-Jack Kornfield

I will practice coming back to the present moment, not letting regrets and sorrow drag me back into the past or letting anxieties, fears, or cravings pull me out.-Thich Nhat Hanh

There is always, always, always something to be thankful for.

The supreme form of wealth is contentment.-Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche

A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is not on the branch but on her own wings. Believe in yourself.

To study the way is to study the self. To study the self is to forget the self. To forget the self is to be enlightened by all things.-Dogen

In life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you. They are the rare and amazing people who remind you why it's worth it.

Positive people also have negative thoughts, they just don't let those thoughts grow and destroy them.

When you connect with people who are good for you, you feel it. This is a big deal. Don't forget to acknowledge how great it is to be around someone who lights you up. Tell them, even if you feel a little weird. Your people love your weirdness.

When you go into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn't get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don't get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree. The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying "You are too this, or I'm too this". That judgement mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are.-Ram Dass

Sticking with that uncertainty, getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos, learning not to panic-this is the spiritual path.-Pema Chodron

Silence is something that comes from your heart, not from outside. Silence doesn't mean not talking and not doing things; it means that you are not disturbed inside. If you're truly silent, then no matter what situation you find yourself in you can enjoy the silence.-Thich Nhat Hanh

The less you respond to drama, the more peaceful your life becomes.

Anxiety, the illness of our time, comes primarily from our inability to live in the present moment.-Thich Nhat Hanh

We sow the seeds of our future hells or happiness by the way we open or close our minds right now.-Pema Chodron

When your mind is narrow, small things agitate you very easily. Make your mind like an ocean.-Lama Thubten Yeshe

Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being. Patient with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are. Compassionate toward yourself, you reconsile all beings in the world.-Lao Tzu

Compassion is not helpless pity, but an awareness and determination that demands action.-Dalai Lama

When you find no solution to a problem, it's probably not a problem to be solved, but, rather a truth to be accepted.

Love is nothing without action. Trust is nothing without proof. Sorry is nothing without change.

Loving kindness is giving others happiness. Compassion is removing others' bitterness. Joy is freeing others from suffering.-Buddha

As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.-Nelson Mandela

Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.-Rumi

Remember the 3 Cs - I didn't cause it, I can't control it, I can't cure it

Create a life you don't need to escape from

Never let your fear decide your future

Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?- Mary Manin Morrissey

When you let go, you create space for better things to enter your life.

Learn to be okay with people not knowing your side of the story. You have nothing to prove to anyone.

When you keep criticizing your kids, they don't stop loving you. They stop loving themselves. Let that sink in.

Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself. -Anais Nin

If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.- Buddha

Forgiveness is for you, not them.
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future-Paul Boese

Mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before

I'm at the stage of my life where I keep myself out of arguments. Even if you tell me 1+1=11 you're absolutely correct, Enjoy!

Don't carry your mistakes around with you. Place them on the floor, and use them as stepping stones to where you want to go.- Karon Waddell

Never regret being a good person to the wrong people. Your behavior says everything about you, and their behavior says everything about them.- Buddha

If you ever get the chance to treat them the way they treated you, I hope you choose to walk away and do better.

Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it. -Buddha

When you come to the edge of all the light you know, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on, or you will be taught how to fly.

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.-Buddha











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